Post # 1
Today’s been awful. Next week, me and FI have booked a night stay in the city. We’ve got reservations to a lovely restaurant and tickets to a stage show. Naturally, I wanted a new dress, so while out today I looked in a few.
I realised that fashion doesn’t work for me. Whenever I found something gorgeous and tried it on, either the sizing was totally off, it was too short, too long, too tight… I realised quickly that my chest will always get in the way and try to be the centre of attention no matter what I wear – but wearing something with a wider skirt makes me look huge and a narrower one just makes my belly stick out.
FI’s also admitted to me that he’s a leg guy – this is pretty tragic since I’m only 5 foot 4 and have pale, fat legs like stumps. I can’t wear heels without snapping my ankles, and I refuse to go bare-legged or get a fake tan. Top it off with every time I look in the mirror all I see are tiny eyes and a double chin…
Basically, my body sucks. I’ve not got a pretty dress to wear out, and while FI is in a suit I’m going to have to sit in whatever threadbare tunic I can dig out from the depths of my closet, with a tonne of makeup and heavy-duty spanx…
Post # 3
FI may be a leg guy, but most of all he is a ZebraPrintMe guy.
We all have days when we are down on ourselves. Don’t dwell on it for too long.
Post # 4
@julies1949: Thanks. You’re right, it’s just been one of those days.
Post # 5
@ZebraPrintMe: Your FI loves you regardless of the negative body image you have of yourself. Like PP stated, everyone has days they don’t like what they see in the mirror, regardless of shape or size. I’m sure you will look lovely on your city date:) We are always our own worst critic. If you like, try hitting the gym and maybe that will increase your self confidence? I love going on the treadmill- I really feel that “runner’s high” and I enjoy the time to myself with my music blasting:)
Post # 6
@ZebraPrintMe: Hey gal, I am sad that you feel that way… it even pours thru as I read your post. Your man may like to look at legs but he has you at home gal! Ohh this make me sad love.
Ok so take me to the shops you went to…. and tell me what you love about urself, We have to get u dolled up and no you may not even need that heavy duty spanx. Lets go…chin up
Post # 7
@ZebraPrintMe: I usually feel this way after going shopping, too, and after about an hour of crying and complaining (he likes to let me vent but not over do it) he’ll talk some sense into me and then I’ll (eventually) be right as rain. I’m not even going to pretend like I don’t mope around because I can’t fit into or find a dress that I look great in. However, I’d try going to a Lane Bryant. I needed a summer dress and just happened to find a hi-low (something I’ve really been wanting) in the perfect pastel colors like I love AND in clearance. I’m a 22/24 top and a 26/28 on the bottom so finding a dress to fit my size differences is difficult. I just go by the bottom size so it fits my hips and then hope that the top isn’t too big and fits well, or at least looks good with like a shrug or something over it.
Whatever you wear your FI will love and he’ll love it because you’re in it.
OH! And I don’t wear heels either, but if you can find some cute wedges (even though I hate most of them) you could probably pull them off. I went to a big dinner and classical concert with my FI and I wore some fancy black wedges. Just get practice in them and make sure you’re comfortable, first and foremost!
Post # 8
@julies1949: + 1000 for him being a @ZebraPrintMe type of guy.
If it makes you feel anybetter, I absolutely hate shopping for clothes as nothing really sits right or fits right. It’s the style now, you have to be a size -25 for things to look nice on you. It’s not you, you are lovely, fashion sucks!