Post # 1
Through our entire relationship my FI and I have been living in different cities not physically all that far apart, but in a practical sense about three hours travel time since he is on Vancouver Island and there is a ferry involved. We have been able to see each other about every other week which has worked quite well for us, but as we get closer to the wedding date I am finding myself becoming more and more ansty. I just want to live in the same city as my love! Imagine, the same house for more than weekends and vacations!
Yes, I know I’m on the home stretch now, but I’m finding that I’m getting super clingy and needy, which I haven’t been before! I am handling most of the wedding planning and my FI has been crazy busy preparing our new home together which I am sure doesn’t help any.
Has anyone experienced anything like this? It’s been over three years of LDR, will the last month be the hardest?
Post # 3
I’m not in that position but it reminds me of being a kid at my birthday party. It was hard to play the games when all I wanted to do was get to the presents and the cake!
The reward will be worth the wait.
Post # 4
We are on the homestretch as well (only a year of LDR though), but I definitely sympathize! It’s hard to have the stress of an LDR, on top of all the wedding planning! All the planning is falling on my shoulders as well, as he is off at school and I’m home where the wedding will take place.
I just try to keep looking forward to the years ahead together (rather than the months apart), and also trying to appreciate this last bit time on my own.
Post # 5
I feel your pain! FH and I have been in a LDR for three years and I have done pretty well handling it. These last few visits have been rough though! We only see each other for a weekend about once a month so it really sucks. I am moving there in about 4 1/2 months and I swear it is getting harder and harder the closer we get. It is all worth it in the end!
Post # 6
It’s really a very normal reaction. My now-DH and I were in a LDR from 2005-2009, and the last couple of months were definitely the most tiring, I was just ready to be in the same city, let alone the same home. I think it’s because you KNOW you’re so close to done with the long distance aspect. Just know that you’re in the home stretch, it won’t be long now, and there are lots of other bees who share your feelings!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! It’s always nice to have some validation that I’m not going totally loonie!
@julies1949: ooo! presents and cake! That is perfectly put, I love it!
@sparkles_10: I hear you on the wedding planning. Our wedding will be taking place at my church and in North Vancouver where I currently am, and I am handling the majority of it right now. I don’t know if FI really knows or appreciates how much work it is because he’s not in the midst of it! Of course, I probably don’t really know what it’s like for him to be living all alone in the house we bought together. I think that possibly wears on him more than I realized.
Ok, we can do this, we’re almost there!
Post # 8
Woo! Congrats! We were in an LDR for four years, and I remember the final months, too. It’ll be over before you know it, hun!
Post # 9
@kayakblondie: Ah I’m in the same position too! We’ll both be graduating in May and we can finally be together again. I love that you put this as the “home stretch” because I feel like I’ve been racing to get to this point and right now it just seems as if I’ve lost my second wind. I’m definitely more clingy/needy now than I have been in a very long time. SOON! We can do this!
Post # 10
the worst part of my LDR (2000 miles away!) was right before the engagement, and then right before the wedding. So anxious for it to just be done.
The light is at the end of the tunnel–you can make it!