Post # 1
IS picking out the bridesmaid dresses. They are pretty dresses on the hanger. However, when my bridesmaids try them on, they feel like they look “pregnant”. I feel horrible. It wasn’t easy to buy these dresses. Both the bridesmaids are not a size 8, or whatever sample sizes are, so they couldn’t even try the dresses on. So I picked something I though would be flattering and I asked them to be sure… well, they aren’t. And we are stuck with 200 dollar dresses they hate.
What part of planning did you screw up, if any?
Post # 3
The guestlist. I should have given my FMIL an exact amount of people she could invite instead of asking her to give me a must be invited list. We were planning on inviting 100 people total and the first list she gave us was 94… including her dentist and hairdresser… wtf? Needless to say it was a horrible battle for about a year.
Post # 4
Your wedding isn’t for another month – get those dresses to a seamstress quickly and have them fitted properly. A good seamstress can work miracles on ill-fitting clothing. He/she may be able to take the waist in a little to reduce the “pregnant” look.
Good luck – hope your ladies feel comfortable on your big day!
Post # 5
@Hiya_Unicorn: I agree with the PP…. You still have time, go to a seamstress ASAP!
Post # 6
Not thinking what I actually wanted and just acting on inpulse.
I was SO happy to get engaged and SO happy to finally be planning a wedding, that now I am in the thick of it, a big, grand, lavish, expensive wedding is not what FI or I want.
Post # 7
Oh, they are going to an alterations shop. It’s just the dress has pleats in the front, and they are very fitted at the waist, the pleats are whats causing the pregnant look. So they are going to see what can be done. They look fine from a front view and back, but side views are the problem.
Post # 8
Hotel block contract. We did a lot of research into picking the best hotel for our guests, knowing that DC is an expensive hotel city and that many of our friends visiting from less expensive areas would find the prices a bit painful, and I think we got a good value for all of our guests. What I screwed up, though, was not factoring in enough attrition. When we wrote out our original guest list, I think DH thought more of “his” guests would be able to come than what ended up actually happening (since most of “my” guests were locals). In the end, we barely met our contract minimum, so we didn’t face a penalty (thankfully), but it did cause a lot of stress. I don’t regret signing a contract with an attrition clause as truly that hotel was the best value for our guests, and that’s the way they do their room blocks. I would just have scaled back on the numbers by about 20-30%. So factor in that some people who you’d fully assume would be coming, won’t be able to make it (like our friend who normally would move mountains to join us, whose daughter picked the same wedding date as we did).
Post # 9
@Hiya_Unicorn: ooo this sounds just like a dress that i just picked up for a friend’s wedding. looked great online. tried it on and it was too large, so i didn’t know how it was supposed to fit. it comes in and it’s SO tight- supposed to be fitted through the hips and thighs, AND it has these pleats in the front that poof out from the sides! ughhh
let me know if you figure out a way to hold the pleats down!
Post # 10
BM dresses here too but for different reasons. They were just a big headache. It ended up being perfect but it was probably the biggest hassle. I really loved the outcome but I would have loved to save myself the stress and just told them to buy whatever they wanted.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I screwed up bridesmaid dresses too, the dress looks fine on my MOH but it’s not really what I wanted now that I think about it. I know it won’t be a huge part of the day so I don’t let it bother me.
The reason I screwed up was, we had just bought my dress and the bridesmaid dress shop was across the street so we went over there to shop for her dress. I was flying high from finding my dress and the store didn’t have any of the dresses me and MOH had agreed we liked, and instead of going to another store, we settled. Looking back, there’s no reason the dress needed to be bought that day and we should have gone elsewhere.
Post # 12
@September29: I will let you know. They should be going this week. It’s also hard because I live about 2 hours away from everyone in my wedding, except my FI. I moved a few years ago for work.
I personally am not fond of the bridesmaid experience. I hate that we had to buy a dress pretty much blindly. I am sure brides have this problem too. It’s just not fun!
Post # 13
@McFierce: I am glad I don’t have a guestlist problme! I can’t afford extra guest!
Post # 14
@McFierce: Same thing happened to me!! Oh well. Eventually I got over it and she and my FFIL agreed to pay for any guests that put us over budget.
Post # 15
Buying accessories or shoes to match a dress I think I love (before I’m even remotely ready to commit to it), then changing my mind. I’ve got like 3 pairs of useless shoes, I was able to return one luckily. But the rest are probaby just gonna sit in a closet.
Post # 16
My dress. I couldnt see spending a lot on my dress, so I went cheap and bought a used dress of ebay. It was horrid. It was 2 sizes bigger than it said, the boning was showing and fake pearls every where. I HATE FAKE PEARLS! Sold it. Bought a second used dress that was eh okay. Seamstress messed it up, it was garbage. So finally I bought a new one. (more that I wanted to spend) but I love it.