Post # 1
Just for fun… what is one thing (decor item, tradition, etc) that you absolutely refuse to include in your wedding and/or reception?
Mine is balloons. My mom actually offered to pay for a balloon arch to go at our ceremony site and was shocked when I politely declined. I don’t know how many times during the planning process I’ve had to say “There will be NO balloons anywhere!!”
Keep in mind that I’m not trying to offend anyone with this thread, we all have different tastes!
Post # 3
Paper plates and plastic silverware/glasses.
I am having an outdoor formal wedding and I insisted on real silverware, real plates and real glasses. My mother in law told me that a rental store told her that I was “bringing inside elegance outside” and that I needed to have disposable table dressings.
Absolutely not, MIL. This is the only thing that I will fight you tooth and nail over. I am willing to compromise on any other point in the wedding, except this.
Post # 4
Not even engaged yet, but I can promise you that there will be no bouquet/garter toss at my wedding. And no sand ceremony or whatever its called…
Post # 5
@Sonatine: +1 to the sand ceremony. Also, still on the fence with the garter toss.. :/
I really don’t want to do plastic table settings, but that might be what my budget calls for, sadly.
Post # 6
Garter and boquet tosses. I find the garter toss completly trashy, and so gross and uncomfortable to watch.
ETA: OP—just read about balloons—I never even knew prople had balloons at weddings, it seems like such a prom thing to me!
Post # 7
No unity candle/sand/water ceremony. We’re not doing a garter toss, but we are doing a bouquet toss for a date night (movie tickets with popcorn and soda, coffee, etc), but we plan on calling everyone up for it, single or married.
Post # 8
No unity candle. No bouqet/garter toss.
Post # 9
Garter toss, dollar dance, unity candle. ugh.
Post # 10
Garter bouquet toss and daddy/daughter dance! Lots of other suggestions have come in from friends but I try to let them down nicely because I’m type A and I wanna plan my own stuff!
Post # 11
Unity candle. First, it’s not part of the Episcopal ceremony, but even if it was, I would put my foot down. The fact that you blow out your individual candles and “become one” is so bizarre to me.
Also peacock feathers. My mom kept trying to incorporate them and I finally was like “have your own damn party with peacock feathers.”
Lastly: Mason jars. Those are for canning; not for decorating.
Post # 12
No garter/bouquet toss, no one is walking me down the aisle, no mother groom dance and no father bride dance.
Post # 13
We’re not having a garter/bowuet toss, only because I don’t like the garter toss, so it kind of had to be no to both, but I really like the idea of winning something for the boquet, hmmm something to think about
Post # 14
The one thing I absolutely refused to do was a RECEIVING LINE!!
I hate them with a passion. Don’t regret it one bit!
Post # 15
NO FIRST LOOK.
That’s more traditional I guess? I just didn’t realize that FLs were so popular! The grand entrance in the aisle is the one and only part of my wedding I’ve envisioned since childhood and dang it, pictures and guests will just have to wait.
Post # 16
Dancing. I can’t dance to save my life and I’d rather spend the time talking and going from table to table. Fortunately, here no-dancing weddings are fairly common.
ETA: +1 to receiving line, though I didn’t so much refuse as not even think of it. Again, my prefered way to greet guests is going table to table.