One-Third of All Married People on FB Attend the Same College

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Interesting. Just because you went to the same school as your spouse doesn’t mean you met there. Those couples won’t be able to be teased out in this particular study though. I went on tons of dates after college with guys that went to my school but I never knew them while there.

Post # 5
10384 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

LOL at all the Christian schools and the Mrs. degrees there. Harvey Mudd is definitely an outlier there. Perhaps it is nerd athiest heaven, and people there really “find” one another? haha.

A lot more data needs to be collected to tease out causation from correlation, though. Cool data analysis!

Post # 7
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@FutureDrAtkins:  Think about though it makes sense. I mean you are literally surrounded by people of the opposite sex with similar goals, education, lifestyle, perhaps religion if it is a private school etc. You basically are in a pool of possible marriage partners and as told to me several times during college you will never have such easy access again to such a wide variety of partners again.

Does that mean you absolutely must get married before graduating or shortly there after? Absolutely not, but it is the norm within my social group. I was one of two within my group that didn’t marry within a year of graduation…I waited six more years. My DH and I met while I was in college (senior year) but he attended a public college and did not graduate (brat makes three times as much as I do).

Post # 8
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureDrAtkins:  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with meeting your husband at college; so long as your graduate you have more than a M.R.S. degree. I suspect the survey indicates which colleges are attended by people likely to marry young.

And I’m another one who went to the same university as DH but we never met there. I would expect a lot of that in Australia though, because there are only a small number of universities in each state, so if you meet a university educated person in your city there’s a good chance they went to your university anyway.

Post # 10
6450 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

All of my friends and cousins met in either college or high school. Same for most of my coworkers. I guess I don’t really understand why it’s such a bad thing?

Post # 11
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Also don’t understand why it’s a bad thing?  I met DH in my senior year of undergrad, and he was older but in his senior year of a grad program.  I certainly didn’t expect to be 20 meeting a 27 yr old I would end up marrying, but we’re 23 and 30 now and everything worked out  🙂

Post # 13
3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the fact that the top schools are mostly affiliated with religion is significant, and it has a lot less to do with the students’ goals and academics than their personal faith. People who consider their faith or religion very important to them are likely to marry someone of the same faith/religion and it’s easier to meet them at schools that are connected to that religion.

In my personal experience, many people with a strong faith/religion are also less likely to just live together for years, so it might raise the rate of marriage in those groups. (Disclaimer: This is anecdotal, not based on any research.)


Post # 14
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

When gay marriage is legal around the country, I’m sure there’ll be more from my school…!!  I know two or three couples who married after meeting at Bryn Mawr, but it’s hard for obvious reasons.


Post # 15
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

I guess this doesn’t seem weird or bad to me. DH and I met in college, I was 19 and he was 23. But we dated for SEVEN years before getting married. I hardly went to school for a MRS degree. I just happened to meet/fall in love with my DH very early on in my life.

We know THREE separate couples who went to college with us and all started dating after graduating. There was a large group of us that all remained close friends after graduation and a few relationships just happened to form out of those friendships.

A majority of my others friends who went to different schools also met their significant others in college. And no, these are not schools strongly affliated with a certain religion. Just your normal public/private universities. Meh, it just doesn’t seem strange to me.

Post # 16
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I never thought it was a bad thing. Fiance and I actually met in one of our classes (he spotted me from across a crowded lecture hall… no seriously) and, while we both completed our degrees (and I’m shooting for an M.Sc), he ended up hating his major and wishes he could have gone with his real favourite from the start.

“At least I got my M.R degree out of it,” he joked. I guess that’s one way of looking at it.

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