Post # 1
I was chatting with my mom and somehow it came up that my aunt had met, gotten engaged, and got married to my uncle within 9 months. 40 years later my mom is still convinced she did it in order to “beat” my mom to the altar.
Summer 1967: Mom & dad met, started dating
June 1970: Mom & dad got engaged
October 1970: Aunt meets uncle
October 1970: Aunt & Uncle get engaged (one week later)
June 1971: Aunt & Uncle get married
June 1972: Mom & dad get married
No real purpose to this post. I just found it interesting 1) Mom still harbors this feeling 40 years later and 2) my aunt and uncle got engaged after a week of dating (I had known but put out my mind). What feelings/memories do you think you’ll still harbor 40 years from now? Can you imagine a world where guys proposed after one week? And who would you have said yes to after one week?
Post # 3
OMG. I can’t even imagine. Agreeing to marry someone after a week is like buying a car without ever driving it. Sure, it looks great and everything sounds great on paper but what if it’s a lemon. I would be flattered but even if Mr. Sexy-Perfection-Rockefeller were standing right in front of me I’d still ask for a little more time so I could find out what was under the hood. 🙂
40 years from now? I think I’d be annoyed that I did more pursuing than my guy did.
@kay01: How would you feel 40 yrs from now and would you ever get engaged after a week?
Post # 4
I have friends who got engaged after 3 weeks. They’ve been married now for 11 years and are probably one of the happiest couples I know.
Harboring feelings like that for this long seems a little crazy to me. I also don’t understand women who think other women are just trying to outshine them. Who cares. She got married and so did you and (from what you’re post sounds like) they have both had great long term marriages. Good for them.
Post # 5
I’d think a man was nuts if he proposed to me after a week, but then I thought the same about my cousin when he got engaged after knowing the girl for 2 months!LOL
Oh, I’d tell the man no if he propsoed after a week of knowing me.
Sorry your mom is still upset. Hopefully she gets over it soon.
Post # 6
Hmm, maybe I wrote this up the wrong way to suggest that my mom is mad, upset or super emotional in any way. She’s not, it’s actually pretty matter of fact this belief of hers. Which, who knows, might be true. And then again, it might not.
My aunt & uncle are still married, which is great, but… They never show much (any, actually) affection towards each other or do anything together really. Otoh, it’s not like they fight either. My cousin is long out of the house, so it’s just them.
Me? No, I would never get engaged after a week of dating. I confess I watch some reality shows where it seems like folks do that, but I can’t imagine doing it myself. I feel I’d need a minimum of a year dating (if a parent were dying…maybe I could cut it to 8 months). But in my family I’m odd, my siblings all got engaged at the one year mark dating, while in college, and married upon graduation 2-3 years later. I’m 10 years out and we’re just about to get engaged after 3 years of dating – ring should be ready sometime next week to 2 more weeks.
Post # 7
One of my best friends called me a few years ago asking me to be in her wedding. I couldn’t believe it and said “you and XXXXX are getting married? I thought you broke up?!?” She said “oh god no!! Lord help me if I was marrying him. No, I met a man a few weeks ago and we’re getting married.” I couldn’t speak. I helped her plan her wedding over the next 8 months while she had a long distance relationship with a guy she dated for six weeks before she had gotten engaged, and only a few months after she had called things off with a long term boyfriend of several years. I thought there was no way it would last, but remained supportive because I knew she was dealing with a lot of flack from everyone else and figured she had a plan and seemed confident in it. After the wedding she moved to the other side of the country to live with her new husband, and is today one of my most happily married friends. I guess some situations require living more off the cuff than seems conventional. I’ll never be able to get my head around it, but couldn’t be more happy for her.
Post # 8
Are the aunt and uncle still married? I mean, if they did it and made it last, I would say kudos. But harboring resentment 40 years later? That’s the kind of shit my sister does.
Post # 9
My Mom thinks the same thing about my Aunt too. The Aunt’s marriage lasted about 5 years, my parents have been married for 38 years this August. They win.
Post # 10
My dad asked my mom to marry her on their first date, she said yes and they were married for 20 years until my dad passed away. If he were still alive they would be married 50 plus years today.
Anyway I always ask her what the hell she was thinking saying yes on the first date but she says she just knew. So 1 day, 1 week, 1 year…10 years who knows…when it’s right its right.