Post # 1
We are one week away from our RSVP deadline — I know, I know, I set it WAY too close to the wedding — and we’ve heard from 66% of our guests. Right now we are doing pretty well at 63% yes, 3% no. There’s another 15% who have told us they’re coming but haven’t sent in their actual response yet, and the remaining invitees are a crapshoot but will probably mostly be no’s.
I’m SUPER excited and touched to see all of the friends who are coming to our wedding. It’s like Christmas morning every time I get a “Yes”! But I’m also nervous about getting a whole bunch of no’s at the last minute, or having to chase people down after the deadline. I am a nail biter who has temporarily reformed in the run-up to the wedding, and it’s taking all of my focus not to slip back into old habits! lol.
Hold my hand and talk me through it — tell me about the tail end of your RSVP window! Did you have to chase a lot of guests? Did you have a whole bunch of last-minute no’s? What about surprise yes’s from people you were sure weren’t coming? Tell me a story!
Post # 3
We did not have to chase a lot of people, thankfully. One we knew her RSVP would be late (she forewarned us, and that was totally fine). We had to chase down a friend, who was like, “No, I can’t come, you guys know I go to [festival] every year that weekend!” Uh, no, we didn’t, but okay, you could have sent back your card. Had to chase down my uncle, who ignored my Facebook message for a solid week before replying that he’d be there with a “+1 to be determined.” I quickly told him that we were unable to accommodate +1s and he said okay, but sent back his card with a guest added to it anyway. My grandma was horrified, lol. I think that was it? Not too bad.
We didn’t have any last-minute nos or surprise yeses. We did have one no-show, and I knew he wouldn’t come and have no idea why his wife RSVP’d for all of them, knowing that her husband wasn’t going to come.
Post # 4
@brlabrat: my deadline is october 1. we have 71% back so far.
i don’t expect to have to call many people. if we had to call people right now for their rsvp, i would have to make 8 phone calls and FI would have to make 18 phone calls.
Post # 5
We ultimately only ended up receiving HALF of our RSVP’s back (deadline was Sept. 1st). I had to chase down HALF our guest list to get a firm yes or no. That really took me by surprise, because we are having such a small wedding (final guest count = 23) and only invited people we were close to.
A lot of people didn’t think it “was necessary” to respond — they just assumed that we knew they would be there (which we did for the most part… but we clearly couldn’t rely on that for purposes of submitting # to our caterer!!!!).
It was very annoying… happy to be over this particular hurdle.
Post # 6
About half our rsvps came in within 48 hours of the RSVP deadline… And most of them said yes. It will be okay!
Also, tracking down RSVP stragglers is a great job for a man who wants to help but is clueless about wedding stuff. My dad volunteered to call family members who hadn’t rsvp’d and it helped so much! Don’t be afraid to delegate.
Post # 7
We only had to contact one family out of about 100 invitations to 180 people. Don’t despair! The last week had a steady stream of RSVPs and a few came one and two days after. I would recommend waiting a few days before calling!
Post # 8
@FutureMrsLAL: “A lot of people didn’t think it “was necessary” to respond — they just assumed that we knew they would be there (which we did for the most part… but we clearly couldn’t rely on that for purposes of submitting # to our caterer!!!!).”
^ This right here! I think several folks are operating under that assumption. Ok ok, I’m willing to let my dad off the hook for not sending in an RSVP 😉 but I’m not going to assume anything about anyone else! Especially folks who need to make travel arrangements. I’m not being a PITA about getting an RSVP using a method other than the one we provided, either — Facebook it if you must, for crying out loud! lol.
@LibrarianTellsAll: Great idea about delegating! And thanks for the reassurance. 🙂 This process is crazy!
Post # 9
@lauraminn: That must have been one crazy week! There are a lot of ups and downs associated with getting RSVPs, I’m finding. Thanks for sharing your experience!