One week left til RSVP deadline… hold my hand!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did not have to chase a lot of people, thankfully. One we knew her RSVP would be late (she forewarned us, and that was totally fine). We had to chase down a friend, who was like, “No, I can’t come, you guys know I go to [festival] every year that weekend!” Uh, no, we didn’t, but okay, you could have sent back your card. Had to chase down my uncle, who ignored my Facebook message for a solid week before replying that he’d be there with a “+1 to be determined.” I quickly told him that we were unable to accommodate +1s and he said okay, but sent back his card with a guest added to it anyway. My grandma was horrified, lol. I think that was it? Not too bad. 

We didn’t have any last-minute nos or surprise yeses. We did have one no-show, and I knew he wouldn’t come and have no idea why his wife RSVP’d for all of them, knowing that her husband wasn’t going to come.

Post # 4
6166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@brlabrat:  my deadline is october 1.  we have 71% back so far. 

i don’t expect to have to call many people.  if we had to call people right now for their rsvp, i would have to make 8 phone calls and FI would have to make 18 phone calls.


Post # 5
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We ultimately only ended up receiving HALF of our RSVP’s back (deadline was Sept. 1st).  I had to chase down HALF our guest list to get a firm yes or no.  That really took me by surprise, because we are having such a small wedding (final guest count = 23) and only invited people we were close to. 

A lot of people didn’t think it “was necessary” to respond — they just assumed that we knew they would be there (which we did for the most part… but we clearly couldn’t rely on that for purposes of submitting # to our caterer!!!!).

It was very annoying… happy to be over this particular hurdle.

Post # 6
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

About half our rsvps came in within 48 hours of the RSVP deadline… And most of them said yes. It will be okay!

Also, tracking down RSVP stragglers is a great job for a man who wants to help but is clueless about wedding stuff. My dad volunteered to call family members who hadn’t rsvp’d and it helped so much! Don’t be afraid to delegate.

Post # 7
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We only had to contact one family out of about 100 invitations to 180 people. Don’t despair! The last week had a steady stream of RSVPs and a few came one and two days after. I would recommend waiting a few days before calling!

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