Online invitations?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6034 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think online invites only are crazy per se, but they’re definitely unusual and can cause some unwanted side effects. Firstly, an online invite only like an e-vite sets a very casual tone, so if your wedding is for a back yard BBQ or other very casual reception, then it’s fine; but if you’re booking the ballroom at a posh hotel then it’s a poor fit.  You might have to chase guests harder for RSVP’s and you might have some folks show up seriously under-dressed.  Plus an online invite is more likely to be shared with people who didn’t make the guest list. While not everyone knows the magical ins and outs of who’s invited based on what’s on the envelope, most folks tend to forward electronic invites a lot more freely than paper ones. 

I think in another 10 years paper invites will be long gone and everything will be electronic but i think for now, it’s still fairly far outside the social norms and you might have to do some additional planning to not have it backfire on you.

Post # 4
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@sunflower22:  I think they are becoming more the thing now, but I also have seen that people do paper invites, but online rsvp which makes it easier for those that aren’t really into technology.  The couple would put phone numbers at the very bottom of the invite to call to make an rsvp if they couldn’t online. 

Post # 5
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1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

A lot of people are real sticklers about paper invites. But sending emailed invites really does save a whole lot of money.
FI and I haven’t decided what we are going to do yet.
WE are definately doing a video save the date though. That will be sent electronically.

Post # 6
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sunflower22:  I personally don’t like evites.  With spam filters and the number of email addresses people have these days and the possibility for typos I just don’t like them.  I also LOVE getting mail.  I will be doing mailed invites with mailed RSVP cards. 

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had online RSVPs, and half of our guests couldn’t be bothered!

I think if everyone is technologically savvy and your wedding is going to be on the informal side, e-mailed invites are great!

But Great Grandma Ople might not have internet and be able to get her invite!

Post # 8
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1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@sunflower22:  Are online invitations becoming “a thing”? Only in the sense that “Not writing thank you cards has become “a thing”. What I mean is, just because technology is advancing, and trends are changing, basic ettiquete does not change. And sending a formal invitaton is the proper thing to do in that it highlights the formality and “special”ness of the occasion. This is not an afterwork happy hour, it’s a wedding! So, for some people who might be doing a casual wedding, sure they could work. But if you expect your guests to treat your wedding as a formal and special affair, bust out the stamps!

Post # 9
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i think it depends on the formality of your event. if you are having a backyard style wedding then online invitations are ok, but a formal event should have formal invitations.

Post # 10
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think they are becoming a thing.  I’ve only seen them used for friends birthday celebrations at bars, etc.

Post # 11
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922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Regardless of formality, I think paper invites are the way to go. Evites serve their purpose for certain events, but I think a weddign is a big deal and should be treated different from any old party, even if it is a casual event.

Post # 12
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just be aware that your invitation sets the stage for the formality of your event. If I was to receive an online invitation to your wedding I’d assume it was extremely casual.

I still think a wedding warrants proper snail mail invitations. 

Post # 13
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1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Also, be aware of things going awry. My friend used an online service to blast out her save the dates and half the people never got it as it went to her spam folder. I used email for save the dates, but I’m still printing a stack of wedding invitations. I used Vistaprint and they’re really affordable and reasonable. I’m using online RSVP because it tracks information better.

Post # 14
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873 posts
Busy bee

I did e-vites for my wedding and it worked out really well. The program I used showed me if it had been opened or not and if it had been bounced back. I know it is way to casual for some people but I was doing a casual event and didn’t want to waste the trees or the money. I did send out about 20 paper invites to people I knew wouldn’t use a computer or who would be insulted by an e-vite. My RSVP rate was very high and I didn’t have to chase down very many people.

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