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oh my, do they think that they are rsvping to the ceremony? or to the actual reception? if someone cant come can they be on the back up? thats so awkward
How did they rsvp??? Did they just leave a comment on your wedding website?
Wow. Very weird. You are so far out from your date, it is strange people are doing this.
I think to some extent you can ignore this for now. How often do you see these people?
Your wedding is way far away. Maybe they were just being funny or trying out the rsvp function?? I wouldn't worry about it too much yet. So much can change between now and when you send out invites. If the rsvp is visible to other people, I would delete it and tell the RSVPer that it is way too early to respond. Unless you really don't know them at all, then just delete and forget about it.
I would probably disable the RSVP option until you get closer to the wedding. It is too soon to have that info up I think, especially since you haven't sent the invites out yet.
That is why I password protected my website. I also made a big point of telling people not to share the website address with others, in case they weren't invited.
Unfortunately I think you have to let those people know that you appreciate their support, but that you don't have room to invite them. It will be awkward, but if someone didn't receive an invite FROM YOU they should expect rejection.
I dito deleting the RSVP function, atleast for now. Some sites make you have a code or something specific to RSVP. Definately something to look into if you plan on allowing guests to do so online.
I thought I had it bad by people sending me their addresses on fb (I wasn't planning on inviting them).
Is there any way you can shut down the RSVP until after you send out the invites to avoid this. I haven't made the RSVP feature available on website yet. I feel that if you don't know them, tell the friends that you told about the website that someone that you don't know has RSVPed. I don't think it would be right to invite someone just because they have invited themselves.
Ditto what everyone is saying...disable rsvp! And I would just ignore...because it is way too soon for invites anyway! When I first got engaged, it was really typical for people to be like, "ohhh yay you better invite me" and such. I just would shake my head and say "uh huh! Yeah...we have to figure out our guest list still." In my case I found that usually the people who said things like that weren't people who were used to going to weddings (college friends, etc.), and they wouldn't even think about the fact that it is really expensive to invite lots of people...don't sweat!
Yeah, I would just ignore it as well... hopefully when the time gets closer and they don't get an invite they will take the hint. That's pretty presumptuous of them to just assume they're invited anyway.
Thanks so much to everyone that commented!!! I originally wanted to ingore them, I just didnt know if that would be the right way to handle it... but I think that is what I will do now... in addition to deleting the RSVP function... THanks again guys
Goodness! I would make sure that specifics like the time and location aren't visible to people who aren't invited, just in case. If someone just RSVPs like that, I wouldn't put it past the person to show up at your wedding!
Oh wow - some people are really out there! But you helped me realize that I'm not going to enable my online RSVP. That way, if non-invitees find the website, they won't be able to "invite themselves". I think I'm also going to be really careful about what we include on the site so we don't have wedding crashers. Yikes!
I would just be vague for now.
Maybe post a reply message on your guestbook that goes something like...
"Thank you to everyone for the sweet and sincere messages! We are planning a small affair for 2011 for mostly family and close friends. While we know that not all of you will be able to join us, we appreciate your sentiment and support."
This just happened to me too! I was excited to see that someone used the online RSVP I just set up, but when I checked the name against my guestlist he's not on it! I don't know who this person is. Maybe a plus one guest? I think I'm gonna switch to the old fashioned way and wait for the response cards.
I'm going to be doing online RSVPing as well! I agree with everyone else, disable the RSVP section until the invitations are sent out. Once we put up the RSVP section it will be password protected. The invitations have a passcode on it for those who are invited to login to RSVP.
OMG delete the RSVP function right now!! HOw rude! Get rid of it and password protect your website. There is a way to set up the online RSVP system so you need a password to RSVP and can only RSVP for pre-set invited names.
We didn't do any online RSVP option for exactly this reason. We published our website so everyone can see the details, but are snail-mailing invitations. Only one way to be invited and only one way to RSVP.
I would eliminate the opportunity to RSVP online, or password protect it. It is a little early to be getting RSVP's anyway...your invites are not even sent out.
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Hi!
I am getting married on 1/8/11 and I just set my website up... well I told some friends about it and I guess they told other friends and one already RSVP'd.... and they are NOT invited!!! What do I do? Add them on? I dont really even know these people!! Opinions please.. :) Thanks in advance