Post # 1
My future husband and I are on a tight budget and paying for a lot of things ourselves while we work and I go to to graduate school. A few friends who are our age have chosen to ask us to RSVP using their wedding website and I loved it – it was so simple and convenient. Now, I also notice that it is cheap! Less printing, paper, stamps, you name it. We were just going to send a few RSVP cards to elderly relatives and ask the rest to get back to us online, but my mother saw a mock up of our invites and said no way! She’s not paying for the invites, or stamps.
Post # 3
Why exactly does your Mom not want to pay for invites or stamps? Is she unhappy with the online aspect or what?
We did online RSVPs. I was hoping it would get more people on the website, and I agree that it is an easy way to RSVP. For the elderly guests (and anyone who might not be into the internet), I said they could RSVP by phone. We did print out a card that looks just like an RSVP card, but did not provide an envelope for it. At the bottom it just says to RSVP on the website or by phone.
So far, I have been super impressed that all the ‘old folks’ have been RSVPing online! I have only had one phone call so far (with about half of the RSVPs in) and that was from someone who I would have expected would be ‘all over’ the online RSVP. But I really enjoyed the phone call because we got to share some personal conversations about the wedding and I feel more connected to her because of it.
Post # 4
Some have objections to RSVPing in any other way but the traditional RSVP card simply due to the formality of a wedding and to tradition.
BUT…it’s your wedding and your money. I completely agree with you about the cost of invitations and most people simply throw them away anyway. If you choose to go this route and your Mom still disagrees, I’d go with the “they’re-better-for-the-environment” stance. Who can argue with that?
Post # 5
I am doing online RSVP with great success so far!
We don’t have anyone that doesn’t use a computer so it is working really well for us! And way cheaper 😉
Post # 6
Maybe explain to her why it’s so easy and convenient for you to have this option. And stress to her that it is an OPTION. To be honest I’ve never gotten an RSVP card with any wedding invite I’ve received and I’ve always either bought my own card to mail back to the couple or RSVP’d on the website.
As the PP said, it’s your wedding and your money. And you have to be the one who’s happy with them.
Post # 7
I don’t think online RSVPs fits the formality of a wedding personally. I’m really not a fan.
Post # 8
If you’re mom isn’t paying, then she doesn’t get a say. So I say do what you guys want to do.
However, I’m not a fan of online RSVPs – too many possibilities for things to go wrong in my opinion (what if the hosting site crashes, there’s a glitch in the system and some yeses become no’s or visa versa, etc.). I know plenty of people will say you can’t base it on what-ifs, but I’m of the mindset that I would rather do what I could to prevent those kinds of things lol. Plus I love getting weddings invites in the mail and sending back the response card!
But like I said, you mom isn’t paying so decide what you and your FI want and go with it!
Post # 9
I agree with shaydenise. If she’s not paying, she doesn’t get to have input if you don’t want her to. But I also think that online RSVPs are just a pain. I’ve had a couple of experiences with them, and I find them really confusing and complicated. When I was invited with a guest and declined, I had to fill in my name and email and then my guest’s name and email. Umm, hello, I’m declining, obviously I don’t have a guest, but it wouldn’t let just me decline. And similar things have happened in other online RSVPs. I just find them generally to be not very user friendly.