Post # 1
We are thinking about doing RSVP’s through our wedding website, for a number of reasons. The main reason is that we plan on moving out of our apartment by Feb 1st – and the wedding is a month later! I am worried about RSVP’s lost or never received because of the move.
We could have them sent to one of our mother’s houses, but we would rather take care of them ourselves (and they both lose stuff sometimes, but only the important things haha).
The tricky thing is that I have never been invited to or heard of a wedding (in my non-internet life) that used digital RSVPs. So I’m not 100% sure about whether we’ll use them yet.
I am designing and making our invites, so it is zero problem for me to put a web address or a QR code (and a phone number, just in case) in there.
I don’t want super formal invites, and it would go on an extra “Info” sheet, anyway… not the actual invitation itself.
I know some people on here have done RSVPs through their wedding websites before, but can I get some first-hand experience stories about them?
– What website was best, in your opinion?
– Was there much confusion over how to RSVP?
– Were people more likely to cancel at the last minute if they RSVP’d online?
Has anyone been invited to a wedding with online RSVP? What was that like – easy, confusing, interesting, etc.?
I think hearing some different opinions will really help me sort this out.
I know some people don’t like online RSVPs, and that’s perfectly OK… just be nice, please 🙂
Post # 3
@CakeyP: We used our website to do online RSVP’s. It was through theknot, and it went ok… I thought it would be really easy for everyone, but I guess some people had trouble getting to the website (not sure why..)
These people either contacted us directly or gave their response verbally to our parents, so I guess that was ok.
We still had to track down people for their rsvp’s, but I think that happens no matter what method you use.
There was some sort of glitch that popped up for certain guests and gave them an error page when they submitted. I still received an email response, but they thought it didn’t go through, so they rsvp’d multiple times, which didn’t really matter but I’m sure annoyed/worried them..
ETA: There were also some people that didnt read the part about entering their name *exactly as it was on the invitation and the site didnt pull up the names in their party and the website didnt automatically record their response, so I had to search back through my email alerts..
Post # 4
As a guest, I do not like online RSVPs. I think weddings are formal events and that online RSVPs decrease the formality significantly. I also forget to RSVP to them because I don’t have the physical reminder on the counter to mail it out…
Post # 5
@abbie017: Personally, I’m terrible about misplacing RSVP’s that I’m supposed to mail in.. So I think I had some bad RSVP karma coming my way no matter what I did. 🙂
Post # 6
I like online RSVPing. We’re doing a travel-themed wedding…so our boarding pass save the date cards have a link to our website for details and to “check-in online.” We’re going to leave a “Online Check-In [RSVP] — Coming Summer 2014” page up until our official invitations go out…then we’ll open the online check-in/RSVP page fully. My fiance is a sport pilot, so we thought that would be cute. We’ll see how it goes (we’re not sending our save the dates until early September).
Post # 7
FI and I are both computer people and very technical. We had both online and mailed RSVPs. Our online was through WeddingWire and seems pretty good and easy.
We received far more mailed RSVPs than online ones, even from people who we thought for sure would go online – younger people who use computers all the time, etc.
Tradition? Convenience? Not sure why. I love online RSVPs myself, but it was pretty clear that the trend is still mailing the card. Or maybe they just didn’t want to waste the stamp?
Post # 8
@Jennlee: I know that’s why I mail back RSVPs – partly because I never had another option, but also because I feel bad wasting the stamp!
I had these awesome daydreams of getting back little teal envelopes in the mail, but then I began thinking about it… and wondering where those envelopes were going to end up when we moved. Because not only will the mailbox change (obviously), but we’ll be packing in the meantime… and I know those RSVP’s are going to get lost. :/
Post # 9
I am doing digital and telephone rsvps, i am putting my grandmas number on for my side of the family and my FI’s parents number for his side.
I have set up an email especially for the wedding stuff (coz i am in two minds about a website) so i have put that on too, and our friends are on fb so they will more than likely contact us through there.
Post # 10
I’ve rsvpd online for 2 weddings. It went well, but wouldve been better if I’d also received an invite or reminder by email (instead of just thru snail mail), so I’d easily have that reminder while I’m already online and an easy link to the site.
we’re doing our rsvps online (or by phone) and I’ve loved it so far through glosite.com. we are doing emailed save the dates, invites, and hotel info that also link directly to the website and RSVP. I can see that over half of our guests have already looked at the hotel info we sent out yesterday and about 1/3 have looked at our website. 10% already rsvpd with the wedding over a year away (we’re taking tentative rsvps and guests can change them at any time)
Post # 11
I think it depends on your guests. We did online RSVPs (via mywedding.com) and it worked out beautifully, however all of our guests are comfortable with using internet/email. Our wedding wasn’t really formal though (hotel ballroom cockail hour and buffet dinner).
Post # 12
Online RSVP worked AWESOME for us. I made the site myself so i just had them sent to me in an email (a seperate email address i made up) and everytime i got an email i updated the excel spreadsheet. SO much easier then snail mail which i know half the invitees don’t use including myself. I’d be more likely to lose the piece of paper but i can’t lose an email. I gave my phone number as a back up to the technologically illiterate and that was fine. i only got a few calls and a few of my friends texted me.
Post # 13
For us, out of 150 people invited, only 13 used the feature. 8 of them also RSVP’d through the RSVP card. The old fashioned way worked best for us 🙂
Post # 14
@CakeyP: could you set up a PO Box at the post office or one of those stores where you could have your RSVP’s sent that way you don’t have to worry about losing them in the move (or are you moving really far?)
I personally prefer the physical RSVP, I forget about online things and will often forget to reply.
I am going to fork over a little extra money for the RSVP cards, I want to get all that mail 🙂
(i will take the advice of many of the bees here and number them!)
Post # 15
My FI does web design so he made our wedding website from scratch.
The online RSVP was useful and we have most of our RSVPs back. The only issue was with older guests who couldn’t access the website but we also gave an option of a written response, so they just sent a nice acceptance card.
Post # 16
A lot of our guests are tech-savvy, so I’m not really worried about people messing it up.
Anyone who isn’t can call me up and let me know on the horn.
In my mind, neither are any more or less inconvenient than sending out a letter.
I am a little bit worried about people treating it like a Facebook invite (no, there will not be a “maybe” option haha) and saying “Yes” then not showing up.
I mean, I know people do that anyway… so maybe I shouldn’t be worried. 😛
@MsGinkgo: I thought about P.O. boxes, but the logistics are a little weird… because where would I open one? And then I could really only pick up on weekends, because my schedule doesn’t really allow me to catch to post office during the day. :/ But I totally agree with you – I want to see those little envelopes in the mail, sigh. I just think it might be easier said than done!