Post # 1
I need help Bee’s!
We are strongly considering online RSVP’s instead of the traditional response cards. I need to know if this is a disaster waiting to happen or a blessing in disguise. Are people more inclined to responded to a personal email or a wedding site? Do we ask them to include the number of people attending on the RSVP card in the invite?
I would like to hear from other bees experience with doing this. Thanks!
Post # 3
we were debating between this too and decided to to traditional RSVP, we ordered them off of Vista Print, they were not expensive and it was really fun to check the mail box everyday. I am glad we decided to to with regular RSVP instead of online
Post # 4
Just a warning: for people over 60 or so, online features to wedding communication seem to be confusing. My mom had to walk a couple of her friends through the process of looking at a registry online because they couldn’t figure it out to save their lives. One of those still went to 3 different stores to find the item because they couldn’t figure out how to order it from the online list they were looking at. (These are people who use email daily).
I would advise doing both a site and email – younger ones will likely rsvp to the site, which means it’s all in one place and you don’t have to sort through all those emails, but also offer the option of email or phone call, for those who find the internet intimidating.
Post # 5
100% dependent on your audience.
That being said, all our guests are technically savvy and while we didn’t do an electronic RSVP, had we, it wouldn’t have been an issue whatsoever. If you think there would be a lot of people who wouldn’t understand, don’t. If you think the vast majority or all would be fine then have at it. 🙂
Post # 6
We did online. But we also added a phone number to give people the option of calling. You might want to consider that.
Post # 7
@Kewii: Did the majority of ppl reply via email? How did you word your RSVP cards in invite? Did you ask them to respond with a # of people attending?
Post # 8
@ProfessorGirl: Totally agree.
Personally, my wedding had an equal amount of youngsters and older crowd. We decided to not base anything on the internet for this reason and decided to just mail everything. I didnt want the added stress of people calling me and saying they were not able to access the RSVP or something of the sort.
Post # 9
We did both. My parents’ friends and family sent a business card or called my parents and the youngest members used the online RSVP, his family sent us back the RSVP card, my friends facebooked me or used the online RSVP, his friends did absolutely nothing. Jeez, I love those boys dearly but they really need a wife/girlfriend to take care of this kind of things.
Post # 10
We did online, a dedicated email address and gave people the option of writing (but no rsvp cards as that’s not part of my Mum’s culture). No complaints though some people couldn’t work the registry/website (“it’s not on google”). I think online is an eco option.
Post # 11
I don’t know if it’s a do or don’t, but I do know that I LOVED using an online RSVP for our wedding. I used theknot.com’s rsvp system, and I was able to have everything in one place – food choices, rsvps, email addresses, thank you note checklist, etc. Even the older folk didn’t have trouble using it, so that was a relief. Plus, it saves on RSVP stamps!
Post # 12
We are doing both. I included a traditional reply card with the invites, and then gave each guest the option of responding online (incase they are the type to forget or such and want to reply right away!) I decided to have the online one because it was free with my wedding website, so why not!
Post # 13
we used a completely online RSVP system. in it, each guest’s name was spelled out. no one could add names, change names, or any of that sort. next to the guest’s name was a checkbox for either an Accept or a Decline. and receiving an automated email each time somebody RSVP’d was probably just as enjoyable as receiving one through snail mail. and i guess, whether you go traditional or online, there will still be those stragglers who- for reasons known only to them- will still not send back the reply card or go online to send their reply. grrrr..
Post # 14
Internet all the way. The only non technical older guests we have will know to call either of our parents. Much less hassle.
Post # 15
@imbisibol: This is one of the reasons we went with online RSVPs, strict control over the guests. Guest logs in and can only reply for poeple on their invite but you cannot add anyone else. We’ve locked ours down with a login because we don’t want people accessing all our other wedding details.
Post # 16
We did online RSVPs because the only “older” guest was my grandmother & she is very tech savvy (more than I am, actually, she even has an iPad lol). It worked out nicely for us. I agree that it’s really dependent on audience.