(Closed) Only a few family members at my wedding

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is happening to my Fiance , he only has his mom really as family to attend. Many have passed or are in different continents.

I feel bad for him but I know his close friends and their parents, and children have become like family. We are delighted to have them accompany us and be our guests. It counts as family to him!

Post # 4
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yeah, it was kind of depressing making the list of who to invite and realizing how few family members I have left. They started dropping like flies after I was six.

Luckily most of DH’s enormous extended family lives in Montreal and Italy and wasn’t willing/able to fly to Vancouver in February, so we ended up with pretty even numbers of family attending and the small, intimate wedding we had wanted all along.

Post # 5
142 posts
Blushing bee

I will be having no family at all at my wedding. It kind of hurts, yes. When I feel a bit stronger about it I was thinking of posting a thread. Yeah, it’s rough, and like yours my fella has TONS of family, which just makes it worse. I’m so scared one of them will say something thoughtless and I’ll burst in to tears.

I feel you.

Post # 6
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I only have 1 grandparent ( gma passed just a couple months ago), my mom, step dad, dad and a couple aunts on my side.

Fiance has about the same amt of family but A LOT of our guest list is his friends and family friends.

Most of the guest list is FI’s. So, I kinda understand where you are coming from.

Post # 9
142 posts
Blushing bee

Thank you, ThePrincessMaggie.

Fella seems to think that if anyone says anything off he’s throwig them out, whereas I think people can get serious cases of hoof-in-mouth disease at awkward moments or in loaded moments (like, gee, a wedding?). I’m more for have contingency responses, a stock of memorized replies that will help you shield yourself. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I are brainstorming on them, and if you have any, please do share.

I will at least be having a number of very close friends, held at a friend’s home, that kind of thing. And if someone says something along the lines of “Too bad (the rest of-for you) your family couldn’t be here” saying that all my people are present and accounted for, or that all the family that matters to me is here. Then there is Miss Manner’s stand by “How kind of you to be concerned”

It’s not a magic solution to prevent tears, but at least it’s some kind of system of defense

Post # 10
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hey I’m in the same situation as you! We are expecting 95 guests at our wedding, and out of that …I only have my mom, dad, brother & his wife/2 kids that will be there for my side. All the rest of my relatives have either passed away or live in another continent. Anyways, my Fiance has a pretty big family and I think about 45 of them are coming.  The rest are our friends.  We dont even have a lot of friends going because a few of them are out of state and cant afford another plane ticket over etc.

I always feel sad when I think about not having any cousins, aunties, uncles etc at my wedding, but then again I guess the upside is that i am inheriting FI’s family….


Post # 13
4 posts

I had a destination wedding and my large family shrunk down to only a few members that could make it. It is a little sad but look at it this way. On the day of your wedding you are going to be so happy to celebrate with the people that are there with you. If the others really want to attend they will make it happen. The people that make it are the ones that will leave an impression with you for the rest of your life. Weddings are tough like that but you will get through it, it’s an exciting day just think of all the people that are there to support you.

Post # 15
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am the one with the large family compared to my Fiance and we are having a destination wedding believe it or not his whole family will be there and 5 of my family members will be there, out of 30 people. I do have family friends coming but you would think my uncles and aunts would care enough to come and share our special day with us, the problem with them is that they care only about money and not their own niece. Oh well I could care less if it were just me my Fiance and just the immediate family with us on that day..

Post # 16
3943 posts
Honey bee

We are having about 75 guests and 3 are my family members! Just my mom, brother and sister. I have a couple aunts and uncles, but I am not close to them and there is a lot of family history/drama that I dont want on my wedding day. So, it sort of sucks. Ive cried a lot about it actually. But in the end, I feel so lucky to be marrying into a great, big family 🙂 Im sure as it gets closer I will have all sorts of emotions.

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