- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
I just recently got engaged to my loving fiancee not even a week ago. Just last night him and i sat down to think up of a guest list and based on that calcualte how much the hall will be and base our budget on that. When we were going through the list and calculating and really thinking it over who should be invited and who not, the atmosphere got a little tense. So we decided to leave that be and look online for local halls to book at and what prices they offer.
After a good 15 mins i decided that i wnated to go back home and get some rest (we aren’t moved in yet but planning to in april) and when i got home i wanted to show my mom the list and have her opinion of it.
the first thing that came out of her mouth was “are you going to have a religious ceromony?”; my fiancee and i did come to the conclusion that we would have a non religious one, due to the fact that he does not believe in the church and that he wouldnt feel comfortable in being in a church let alone marrying in one. I another hand, come from a very strict roman catholic church… and would say that i too do not believe in 95% of what the church says and does. So when i told my momther what him and i want… of course she flipped out. Then my father came into the kitchen and heard about this and said that i shouldnt be marrying someone who wont respect my family and what they believe in and respect my father becasue he will only walk me down in a catholic church.
Then a few moments after they said that our list was rediculasly short and that its rude not to invite the people that invited my parents to weddings in the past… like wow… my fiancee’s and i list only consited of people that we are close too and talk talk too. :S If my parents really went to town with the list making i’d have over 600 people (not joking) and on top of this all… my parents are eastern european… so they want it all to be european style not north american traditions ( or have them both, its one not the other)
Thinking that things couldn’t get worse, my parents said that my fiancee and i shouldnt be making any decision wihtout having my parents do them first. and when i told them that we want to be moved in before we wed so that we could be settled down and be alone, my parents just went haywire.
Of course i will move in with my fiancee and will be a little strapped for cash, but my real issue is how could i get both to comprimise with what I would want and to have my fiancee to be a bit more open to teh church wedding concept. and yes ladies, he did pull the “if we marry in a church, the wedding is off”
I thought being engaged was to be a fun and memorble year in your life to enjoy it… not a week in and already people chpping heads off 🙁