Post # 1
Okay so this is one of those times where I’m going to be really irrational here for a minute okay? So, I KNOW I’m being irrational… no need to yell at me 🙂
That being said… I’m totally annoyed. FI’s dad’s family has Christmas with their extended family at a lodge on this campground every year. It is nice in the sense that they always do it a week before Christmas, so it doesn’t conflict with any other goings-on and it kind of gets seeing them out of the way. It is not so nice in the sense that the “lodge” is really a concrete dorm type place with bunk beds, and we don’t get along with FI’s dad’s family all that well anyways.
This will be our 4th Christmas together and so far I’ve never gone to the lodge. The first and third years we were together FI didn’t go because he went to visit his mom for Christmas for a whole week (so obviously if he wasn’t going I’m not going). The second year I missed partially because I had some stuff going on with work, but more because the lodge that his family rents doesn’t allow dogs and they suggested that if I “had to” bring my dog I tie him up with a rope outside for the weekend. Outside. In December. In Michigan. Ummmmm. HELL NO. I don’t believe in outside dogs ever… but especially not in December in Michigan.
It’s really hard for me to find people to watch him around the holidays because my friends are always traveling home to see their families. So anyways the invite comes for this year and FI has to go because he isn’t going to see his mom… and we decide that there really isn’t any way that we can get out of going so we agree. Then I just get an email from his step mom that says “Just a reminder that Stewie can’t come because no dogs are allowed.” Argh.
There are two lodges on the property, one allows pets and one doesn’t… they know this is a huge issue for me so why don’t they just rent the other one? If it is an issue of money let us know! I would pay $50 to take him with me. Ugh. I mean I DID know and I **think** that I found someone to watch him (its hard to get commitments from people 2 months out of course), but just the tone of her email annoyed me. Like he’s a purse I can just leave in the closet.
And I know for people who aren’t dog people this is probably like “OMG stop whining.” totally get that. But I am so attached to him and I feel terrible every time I have to leave him for a few days– it really stresses me out to have to worry about finding a place for him to go! I’m sure I wouldn’t be so annoyed if I got along with his family better but I guess just in addition to everything else, my dog is kind of my “safety blanket” because when I’m around them and they’re totally ignoring me I can just focus on playing with Stew and it isn’t so awkward.
Meh… this is totally just a rant. FI is out paint-balling today so I can’t whine to him and of course the Hive is my best alternative haha.
Post # 3
@CorgiTales: I’m not sure where you are in Cbus, but if I have to board my pup (and like you, I HATE doing it!) I really like Top Dog Daycare up in Dublin. It’s not super cheap, but Lola always comes home happy and exhausted and the owner is a really knowledgeable, fun dog person.
I feel you on this one – my FH’s family are not dog people, so every time we go over there (which is frequently, because they’re close and my parents are in Chicago) I have to leave her home. She’s also got a loud bark that scares my niece, so I’m not allowed to take her to Cleveland when I go up there either. It drives me crazy because if she could just hang out for a little bit she’d stop barking and just love on everyone 🙁 Hope you find something!!
EDIT: I also lived in Michigan for 2 years for grad school and the thought of leaving a dog – and a small one at that! – outside in that kind of brutal weather is just insane!!! I’m pretty sure had someone asked me to do that there would have been some accidental F bombs dropped 🙂
Post # 4
I totally get you! I’m much more attached to our dog than DH is and the other day she was accidentally left in the sun room (where she hangs out while we’re at work) without her toys. When we got home she had chewed some of the wood on the door frame and he freaked out. He was talking to a friend on the phone later that night and said that if the friend knew anyone who wanted a dog to let him know. Apparently he was joking, but I didn’t know that and FREAKED OUT! I cried like a small child for about 1/2 an hour until he confirmed that he was just frustrated and joking.
Moral of the story, I’d feel the exact same way you do!
Post # 5
No, I completely understand. My in-laws go up to Detroit, Michigan, every single year to visit my Fiance’s awesome grandmother for like 10 days (she’s really great) BUT it requires me to board my cats. I don’t like boarding them. I did one year when I only had my oldest, she came back scared and upset (and developed some really bad behaviors during that). I never want to put my cats through that again because I don’t want them to think I gave them up. They all been through the shelter and to me, boarding is a similar environment. So I don’t go, it’s as simple as that. I can use the excuse of “work.”
Post # 6
@TealChocolate: Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll keep it in mind. I just don’t know about boarding. I work from home so Stew is basically never alone for more than a few hours at a time and he gets SUPER depressed when we leave him for longer. Plus he isn’t crate trained because he has no problem having the run of the house. I feel like having him in a cage for a lot of the day if we boarded him would be pretty traumatic for him. Honestly if I can’t find someone to watch him what we’ll probably have to do is ask my parents to do it (which would be a HUGE hassle because they live 2 hours away). I just really hope my friend’s schedule works out like he thinks it will and he can watch Stew for me.
Post # 7
Aww, I totally understand. My puppy Toby is like my baby. It’s so frustrating when people don’t get that. I would NEVER tie Toby up outside when it is cold. He might be a dog, but he hasn’t spent a day in his life outside in the cold, no way.
Is having him boarded an option? We went to Florida for a week last year, and boarding him was the only option since we were driving. We did some research and had him boarded at his vet. He loves his vet, and recognizes her in an instant. She called me everyday to give me updates, and even sent me iPhone pictures of him! (I still cried a few times, but whatever…)
How long would you be gone? I wish I was closer to Ohio, I would be more than happy to pet-sit for you for free! I love dogs, and Toby would love a playmate.
Post # 8
@Twista: oh man I’d cry too!
@beekiss2: yea that is prob part of it too, that he was a rescue dog. he was in the pound for a while then fostered with a breeder who kept him in a cage a lot. he’s an amazing dog but he definitely has some issues from that and I ALWAYS feel like he thinks I’ve abandoned him when I leave for a weekend. During the year it isn’t *so* bad because i have a good friend who is like a “second mom” to him, we spend lots of time at her house and he is super attached to him so leaving him with her I feel is okay. But she is a teacher so she goes home for her whole Christmas break and isn’t available to watch him (she did offer to take him home with her for the whole 2 weeks over Christmas but I couldn’t be without him that long!)
Post # 9
@CorgiTales: Oh no no no – he’d be out all day playing with the daycare dogs 🙂 Lola only goes in her crate at night – and I think that’s optional because they have rooms for boarding dogs. She likes to sleep in hers so we go for that. They also have a webcam so you can check in on him throughout the day.
Post # 10
@CorgiTales: Two weeks is a long time, I’d stay away from places that stick dogs in cages. My cat came back traumatized, and I’m not just saying that–my sister and Fiance both saw a difference in her demeanor.
Post # 11
This place is in Columbus. An old teacher of mine lives there, with three puppies, so I called her 🙂
She gets them boarded here, and she said she has had really good luck with it and likes it.
Hope this helps.
Post # 12
@beekiss2: just to clarify, my friend that usually pet-sits for me is going home for 2 weeks for Christmas and offered to take him home with her. We’re only going to be out of town for 3 days (which is why I rejected her offer because I don’t want to have him gone for 2 weeks when I’m only out of town for 3 days). I really don’t think I could board Stewie… I’d just worry too much about him freaking out.
@TealChocolate: interesting! i have never heard of that. I will keep it in mind as a last resort but leaving him with a stranger who he doesn’t know just worries me. I know… I’m overprotective lol.
@Linz1231: thats so great that he had a good time at the vet! I move around a lot so Stew has never seen the same vet twice!
Post # 13
I understand completely! I have a dog who is very much a mommas-boy and would melt-down in a kennel. I can just see the ‘look’- “but Mom, I sleep under the covers!?”
My other dog has separation anxiety so she will actually hurt herself if kenneled. Luckily FI is VERY attached to his dogs as well, so that helps.
His family are not dog people. I suspect they would not get the cabin that allowed dogs cause they do not want him there. I try to remember not to take it personally. Even at my house I can see that the dogs make them uncomfortable and they try to hide it (which I appreciate!) They just do not understand the relationship. In fact we just started chemotherapy on FI’s dog, and I know they will think that is just ridiculous.
Anyway, if the lodge is too far to just go up for the day, I would look at staying at a dog-friendly hotel and just go spend the daytime with the family. Not ideal, but they may see that if they want you and hubby around they need to accept the dog.
Post # 14
I wish we were closer – we’d take Stew! I totally understand and I think that would drive me nuts! We spend a lot of time with hubby’s family, but they have three dogs and love ours, so it’s not a problem, plus they’re 8 hours away (sucky, but doable) This year we’re not leaving until Christmas eve to go visit my parents in Oregon and we’re scrambling with what to do with Eva. She’s a hair to big to go with us on the plane and I’m hesitant to crate her and ship her with the luggage, particularly since the last flight we’d take is on a TINY plane and I’m not sure that they have the facilities to handle a dog in cargo. I’m hoping a friend of mine can come and stay with her while we’re gone, otherwise I’m nut sure what to do.
Post # 15
i think edgypeanut’s idea is an excellent one, if the dog can visit the lodge/area where people are hanging out (maybe they won’t allow him to stay, but spend some time there?). then you can have the best of both worlds.
i absolutely know what you mean — everytime we have boarded the pups for christmas (we have to fly across the country, so they can’t come) i am actually doing some research on local kennels today but it is just depressing….
one year i had to travel a lot for work, and i looked into having a dog sitter come to my home/keep sammy at her place. she ended up staying with the dog sitter at her house, where she basically had the run of the place and got to play with the sitter’s dogs for the week. i LOVED that arrangement and sammy seemed to have a great time, but unfortunately we moved and have not found anything similar here…. our new dog, luke, is also a rescue and he HATES being crated and is really afraid of new people, so i am really worried about him….
Post # 16
I know it’s hard to leave your pup, but I promise, at the most he would be upset for a day after you got back. Most likely, if you took him to a kennel, he would be so happy to see you when you picked him up he’d forget all about the fact he doesn’t like a crate.
A few tips if you choose to board him:
I would just recommend chosing a kennel that has designated playtimes (mine does 4 30 min group play sessions for boarding dogs, same as daycare) or all day play outside of the crates/runs. It gives great mental and physical exercise and eases the stress of being caged the other times. You can also request and pay extra for the bigger runs that larger dogs get. You just pay the large dog price for the run instead of the small dog price. He’d have tons of room to move around in those. Just check out a few places first and make an educated decision and you’d feel good about it. You could also try boarding him for a day/night to see how he does before making the decision to do it for a week. Also, bring in a blanket or his bed from home to put in his crate/run so he has something familiar.
Good luck! You can do it, and your dog will be fine.