(Closed) Only four more years….

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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69 posts
Worker bee

I think we all have a lil trouble waiting ๐Ÿ™‚

If it truly is a cost thing.. is looking into a non-diamond e-ring an option ?  Cost was a thing for us, which is why we went with something cheaper (Moissanite). 

Hope this helps a lil  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
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69 posts
Worker bee

@Miss Adventure:  That would be a long time, but they do say the best things are worth waiting for ๐Ÿ™‚      About the budget, I would just say, “hey I know this might not be your favorite topic but it is very important to me and I’m hopeing we can set up a budget. ”   but that’s just me ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 6
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Miss Adventure:  I can totally understand him wanting to have his priorities in order, I respect that and I think that is really admirable! On the other hand, I know how you feel because I am going through some similar ‘waiting pains’. One thing that has really helped, is we sat down a few weeks ago and talked about it – had a real heart to heart discussion. Not nagging, no crying (OK I lie, there were a few I-want-it-now tears on my part Wink) and were totally open with each other about what we expected from one another.

We identified the things we both want to put in order before we take the next step, WROTE A PLAN together to accomplish them. I feel like when you sit together and write things down it brings more accountability. I do think maybe there is more to the debt ‘excuse’ than you may know. Maybe you could get him to agree to credit counseling, or go see a financial planner to set him on his way to achieving his goal?

Don’t let jealousy or envy keep you from being happy for others in your life! I take great joy when the people I know get engaged, get married, have babies, buy homes, etc… because I know through genuine gratitude and happiness for the ones I love, I come closer to my own. You will too.

Post # 8
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1151 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m sorry, I know it’s difficult! It sounds like you guys have talked, but still don’t seem to be on the same page. How long have you been together already? And why 4 years? What does he want to accomplish in those years that would prevent an earlier engagement? I agree with MissCoCo in that I feel like you should sit down and make a plan together. Part of that should be your financial plan, short-term and long-term. Finances are one area that couples fight about most often. It helps when both people are honest and open about their finanical situation as well as how they handle their money on a day to day basis.

I think a big portion of Mr. Bee’s plan is to focus on yourself and do things that make you happy. The more you obsess about the lack of proposal, the worse it makes things. Have the conversation, come to an understanding and then move on!  

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