Only inviting partners who were around when save-the-dates went out?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SophieExcursus:  we had a lot of drama over plus ones, we did an online invite wedding site and some single friends wrote “guest” just in case they would be dating someone later!! so rude! when we confronted them they said, well i’ll just bring a friend if i’m not dating anyone by then.

now 2 weeks until the wedding we still have people trying to bring random plus ones!

prepare yourself for trying your best to be the bigger person and say “sorry, we can’t afford it.”

Post # 4
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@kireifresca:  I completely agree! No matter what you do, prepare to say you can’t accomodate more peole.

The whole +1 thing has been so frustrating!!  People will break up or find new bfs/gfs between the time you send the STDs and the wedding.  And singles will want to bring a friend or a parent or someone!  We’re at capacity for our venue so I have just had to tell people that I will let them know if we can accomodate their +1 once we get our RSVPs back.

 

Post # 5
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Following because I’m wrestling with the same question and interested in input…

Post # 7
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SophieExcursus:  I think it’s nicer to put names “Sarah and John”, not “Sarah and Guest” anwyays.  Then you’ve solved the issue of flavor-of-the-week dates AND you’re acknowledging people’s relationships/SOs.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SophieExcursus:  I think that’s fair, clear, and tactful.

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