ONLY NEICES AND NEPHEWS INVITED

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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895 posts
Busy bee

I think that’s incredibly rude.

Post # 5
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789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are doing this. No one cared, and we haven’t gotten any push back from our families. They are also in the bridal party, so that helps.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We aren’t having *any* children, so if you’re rude than I’m shameful.

No, that is totally reasonable: your budget is your budget and I think youre being gracious to allow the kids in your family.

If other people have a problem with their kids not being invited, they’re going to have to get over it: they arent paying for the extra heads.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@juliaprajapati:  It is not at all rude. Hosts can invite whomever they like . It does make it easier however, when you draw the line,  if you apply it consistently i.e nieces and nephews are the only children invited, and all nieces and nephews are invited.

There have been a million posts about adult only weddings. None of us are going to change anyone’s else’s opinion.

There will always be those people who take it as a personal insult when their children are not invited. Some will add them to their rsvp card and you will  have to deal with those. Some other parents will decline the invitation if they can’t bring their children, and that’s ok too.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@juliaprajapati:  I think it’s hard, when you make exceptions for some guests and not others…I would probably be offended (understanding, but offended) if I was a guest and had a child.

It might be more acceptable if you don’t tell anyone this….Just make it clear with your inner envelopes and RSVP cards who exactly is invited, and who isn’t. If someone calls to ask if they can bring their kids, you might reply “We just can’t accomodate any more guests due to our venue” instead of saying, “No kids, except for my neices and nephews!” 

 

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@badabing88:  “We aren’t having *any* children, so if you’re rude than I’m shameful.”

 

Ditto that.

@mrsztobee:  I don’t see how it’s “incredibly” rude. She wants friends and relatives.

Friends – people she’s friends with
Relatives – aunts and uncles are just as related as nieces and nephews 

She’s not friends (or related to) other people’s kids! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@juliaprajapati:  Nope, not rude. My little sister only allowed our nieces and her DH’s little cousin. All three were in the wedding too.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It isn’t rude at all I’m not sure why people think just because they have children that they should have an automatic invite! Seriously bugs me. We are having a blanket ban except my brother who will be thirteen and my FI niece who will be fourteen.  I think people should respect this and get over themselves it isn’t there day. You shouldn’t be expected to cater for evey child. If we were going to cater for every child it would be like a children’s party. There has to be limits. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was torn with this too! In the end I invited children because I find it rude when I go to a wedding and see other children and my nieces and nephews are not invited.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Chrysoberyl:  People read so far inbetween lines on this issues that I’m halfway considering putting this on the invites:

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@juliaprajapati:  don’t invite anyone who you don’t want (or can’t afford to have) there. Your guest list is your choice. It’s completely reasonable to only want children you are close with to be there. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’s fine.  The 13+ kids can be pretty much treated as young adults.  The littler ones are honorary ring bearers and flower girls of course… so they HAVE to be there. 😉

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@badabing88:  The issue isn’t if kids are invited or not, it’s that only certain kids are allowed.

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