Post # 1
We are having a semi-small wedding. (100 guests)
We are very close to our nieces and nephews!
3 Nephews — ages; 16, 13, 2
5 Nieces — ages: 13, 8, 7, 7, 3
They are absolutely going to be at our wedding and reception.
However, we are on a tight budget and I would prefer if other guests didn’t bring children.
I would like it to only be immediate family children that know us!
Is this rude or ok?
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Post # 4
I think that’s incredibly rude.
Post # 5
We are doing this. No one cared, and we haven’t gotten any push back from our families. They are also in the bridal party, so that helps.
Post # 6
We aren’t having *any* children, so if you’re rude than I’m shameful.
No, that is totally reasonable: your budget is your budget and I think youre being gracious to allow the kids in your family.
If other people have a problem with their kids not being invited, they’re going to have to get over it: they arent paying for the extra heads.
Post # 7
@juliaprajapati: It is not at all rude. Hosts can invite whomever they like . It does make it easier however, when you draw the line, if you apply it consistently i.e nieces and nephews are the only children invited, and all nieces and nephews are invited.
There have been a million posts about adult only weddings. None of us are going to change anyone’s else’s opinion.
There will always be those people who take it as a personal insult when their children are not invited. Some will add them to their rsvp card and you will have to deal with those. Some other parents will decline the invitation if they can’t bring their children, and that’s ok too.
Post # 8
@juliaprajapati: I think it’s hard, when you make exceptions for some guests and not others…I would probably be offended (understanding, but offended) if I was a guest and had a child.
It might be more acceptable if you don’t tell anyone this….Just make it clear with your inner envelopes and RSVP cards who exactly is invited, and who isn’t. If someone calls to ask if they can bring their kids, you might reply “We just can’t accomodate any more guests due to our venue” instead of saying, “No kids, except for my neices and nephews!”
Post # 9
@badabing88: “We aren’t having *any* children, so if you’re rude than I’m shameful.”
@mrsztobee: I don’t see how it’s “incredibly” rude. She wants friends and relatives.
Friends – people she’s friends with
Relatives – aunts and uncles are just as related as nieces and nephews
She’s not friends (or related to) other people’s kids!
Post # 10
@juliaprajapati: Nope, not rude. My little sister only allowed our nieces and her DH’s little cousin. All three were in the wedding too.
Post # 11
It isn’t rude at all I’m not sure why people think just because they have children that they should have an automatic invite! Seriously bugs me. We are having a blanket ban except my brother who will be thirteen and my FI niece who will be fourteen. I think people should respect this and get over themselves it isn’t there day. You shouldn’t be expected to cater for evey child. If we were going to cater for every child it would be like a children’s party. There has to be limits.
Post # 12
I was torn with this too! In the end I invited children because I find it rude when I go to a wedding and see other children and my nieces and nephews are not invited.
Post # 13
@Chrysoberyl: People read so far inbetween lines on this issues that I’m halfway considering putting this on the invites:
Post # 14
@juliaprajapati: don’t invite anyone who you don’t want (or can’t afford to have) there. Your guest list is your choice. It’s completely reasonable to only want children you are close with to be there.
Post # 15
I think it’s fine. The 13+ kids can be pretty much treated as young adults. The littler ones are honorary ring bearers and flower girls of course… so they HAVE to be there. 😉
Post # 16
@badabing88: The issue isn’t if kids are invited or not, it’s that only certain kids are allowed.