Post # 1
My co-worker just returned from her DW last week. Although she wasn’t complaining. She said she only received one gift and was a little disappointed that out of 55 people she didn’t get any cards. She was wondering if that is normal for DW, or do you think they will arrive later?
Post # 3
i should know what that is … dear wedding?
Post # 4
@alishaloo: It means “destination wedding.”
I would bring a gift, though it would probably be smaller (depending on how much I had to shell out for the travel expense). I’d bring a card even if it was on the moon!
Post # 5
It means Destination Wedding. I think most people would have the gift shipped to her house for a DW. It’s weird about the cards though. Has she checked her registry?
Post # 6
@alishaloo: Destination Wedding
Post # 7
I think guests’ presence at a destination wedding is the present. You cannot expect people to shell out for airfare, hotels in a desireable location, meals other than the wedding, etc, and then also have lots of money left over for gifts. Awesome if you get it, but not at all required.
Post # 8
Oh gosh I am dumb.
Didn’t even think of that one.
IF somone asked me to go somewhere far for a wedding I wouldn’t be able to give a gift.
Once a three hour drive was the best I could do gift wise since I had to spend money in gas.
Bride didn’t mind.
I wouldn’t even ask for gifts myself at a DW but they might come later… :S
Post # 9
I understand people not giving expensive gifts since probably going to the DW already costs a lot, but I would expect at least a card with nice thoughts inside. Those are free!
Post # 10
I voted yes… but generally speaking, I have to be really close to someone to be willing to spend the cash to go to a destination wedding. I would get them something, but it probably wouldn’t be as much as a non-DW.
The total lack of cards is a bit odd, though.
Post # 11
Travel across Canada is expensive (often more-so than going out of country), and when going to weddings out of town, I still give a gift. If I am unable to attend a wedding, I send a gift. That’s just how I roll.
Post # 12
I would at a minimum give a card! That’s shocking she didn’t get any cards!
Post # 13
We went to a very expensive (for us) DW that cost us several thousand dollars ($4+k?) and we still gave a gift to the couple. In fact, they gave us 50% less for our wedding than we did for theirs even though our wedding is local. In addition, I attended the bridal shower and brought a fairly pricey gift for that. In fact, we were invited to another DW that we couldn’t attend (just would’ve been too expensive for us) and we still sent them a nice gift off their registry.
So yes, I find it surprising that the couple didn’t receive gifts or envelopes from the majority of the guests. I get that DW are expensive but we don’t feel comfortable attending anything, even a casual BBQ, without something in hand.
Post # 14
I think it depends what kind of DW it is. If it’s one where I have to spend 2k each for DH and I to go to a Sandals resort on some deserted island, no gift. If it’s just a wedding in another US city, I give presents!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Personally I would and have given presents at destination weddings. However, getting there can be sooooo expensive, it should be understandable if people can’t afford to give one.
Post # 16
Guests are spending so much already. I probably would not be able to give a gift. A card for sure though.