Post # 1
I have a friend who is getting married in November and her BM’s (younger sisters) sent out an evite on Saturday for her weekend getaway bachlorette. They invited 15 girls. I’m not really close with any of them except for one who lives in Cali who I know won’t be going. I just checked the status of the evite, and I see that out of 15 girls, I am the only one who has RSVP’d yes. There are 3 “maybes” and two “no’s”.
I don’t know what to feel, but I can best describe it as awkward. When I first got the invite, my first instinct was “I don’t want to go!” but I sucked it up because I thought it would be one of those “ends up being fun” things. Now I see that there is no interest from anyone else, and I feel bad for my friend. I’m also scared that I’m now going to be going on a bachlorette weekend with just my friend and her two sisters which would be really weird and probably really expensive with only 3 people to split the costs…
I guess I’m just venting, but if anyone has advice, I’d love to hear it.
Post # 3
Only 6 people have responded so far. Maybe others will RSVP yes. If you really don’t want to go, change your RSVP to no and be prepared with a reason why. (polite of course) You may want to change it to maybe, then no (gradually) but don’t take too long. You don’t want the bride and BMs to think you’re coming when you’re not. They may change plans alltogether if not enough people respond with a yes and the new plans may be more suitable to you.
Post # 4
@CanAmBride:I feel ya. I’ve been in similar situations before. Most recently, last summer, I was invited to my friend’s bachelorette party; I didn’t really want to go because I really wouldn’t know anyone and I didn’t want to be away from FI for an entire weekend. The only other girl I know twisted my arm into going, but ended up bailing a couple of hours before we were supposed to leave. That sucked. I really had to suck it up to make myself go. It ended up being a good time, though. And you better believe, those girls talked about my friend that bailed.
I’m not saying you should go, I’m just saying make up your mind sooner rather than later and come up with a good one.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks girls. I’m going to go because she’s my friend and because honestly, I don’t really have a great reason not to. I’m really trying to make an effort to do things outside of my comfort zone, and this definitely qualifies.
However, I’m secretly hoping they move it closer to home. It would be much easier to get myself excited about a night out with a bunch of girls I don’t really know than a whole weekend (and $500+) away.
Post # 6
@CanAmBride: Thats really nice of you to suck it up and go. I know that your friend who is getting married will very much appreciate you going. For me, i have a situation in which I am the bride who I dont think anyone will go to my parties accept for my bridesmaids, which would make things awkward and sad for me that I have no friends to support me other than that. So if I were your friend, Id be super happy about you going out to celebrate with me during this happy yet stressful time.
Post # 7