Post # 1
Most of you will remember my drama of losing an usher, happened a few weeks back.
Well as hard as both Mr S and I have tried to talk to Usher and try to get things sorted, he refuses. I’m left with no choice but to replace him – and fast.
Yes, 4 months to the wedding but I need to order the gifts for the guys and this person will need to prepare, ect…
So: If I can’t find someone, would it be hard/wrong having only one usher for a wedding with a guest list of approx 220 ( i I know not all attend theceremony…)
Would you find it weird if there was a girl usher? I know it’s the 21st century but really…a girl usher??? Is it as weird as it sounds?
Post # 3
we’re having a girl usher! it was a good way to include her in the wedding without her being a bridesmaid (she’s also shy, and doesn’t like being in front of people, so it was a good solution). i don’t think it’s weird at all!
i would have more than 1 for a wedding that big…
Post # 4
I’ve seen girl ushers, and it’s no problem. The only thing you might want to consider is that it’s recommended there be one usher for every fifty guests. One might be a little strained.
Post # 5
You could always have the groomsmen help in seating some of the earlier guests or the guests of honor. Most guests will know how to seat themselves. I would think it was funny to see a girl usher, but if that’s what you want to do it’s fine!
Post # 6
Apparently the GMs used to perform the duties of an usher anyway. What the heck, its not like they are putting the final touches on their hair and makeup. I’m not sure ushers are absolutely necessary, unless you feel strongly about people sitting on either the groom’s or bride’s "side." If you have someone to look out for the family/guests of honor and show them to the front pews, you should be okay. If you’re worried about people being clueless enough to sit in the front pews when they’re not family, you can either close them off with a little "Reserved" sign and ribbon, or have family get there a little early and take their seats.
Post # 7
I think one usher is fine, like a few people said above depending on what your expectations are. The last few weddings I’ve been to, we just seated ourselves with no assistance from an usher. If you are having a super duper formal weding and want the usher(s) to escort each guest indivually to their seats, then you’ll need more.
I had a mix of women & men who were close friends but not in the bridal party handing out programs and directing people to their seat. It worked beautifully and it didn’t look odd at all. But you can also enlist the groomsmen for help if you’re rather not have add’l people running around.