(Closed) Only people who didn’t show to our wedding? My 1/2 siblings =[

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Consider yourself hugged.

You are right. It is personal! But it is a reflection on your half-siblings- not you.

It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you had growing up, the mature adult  thing to do is to show up and be happy for the sibling getting married.

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh thats awful! But 6 days after your wedding!!! don dwel on it to much you should just be enjoying your marital bliss (and i know it would be hard with this being so distracting!!)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Awwwww! My sympathies. How disappointing for you – it is personal – it sounds like it is about the no-kids rule. That really sucks.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

*Hug*

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@snake:

That’s lousy!!!  My 3 brothers made it for my daughter’s wedding-BUT one of them apparently complained and said something to the effect of “I can’t wait to go home” in front of everyone!  I think sometimes it is better to not have people there, who can’t be gratious and respectful!!!  I don’t even know exactly what he said-cause nobody will really tell me what he said-another SIL-who wasn’t able to come knows though!  So you may be lucky that they weren’t there to make snarky comments in front of your other guests!!  I wish you a long and happy marriage and a happy honeymoon 😉

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@snake: I can sympathize, my half-sister (and her +1) didn’t show. She sent me a text message saying she felt like death. But then like two days later was talking about how she can’t wait to party this coming weekend.

We have had a relationship that has been drifting apart the last couple of years. She is 10 years older than I am, but had kids young. So now she is partying like she is 19 and 20, but that isn’t my scene anymore.

I am so upset that she didn’t show.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Viceroy

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I know I would be really hurt.  I guess I’d just try to concentrate on all the people who were there for you and your husband.

hugs

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I know how you feel..

my husbands sister, who had agreed to be my bridesmaid when we got engaged, backed out of the wedding party – and wedding altogether, only a month before we got married (and didn’t even tell ME), because she decided she couldn’t take off work to come, even though her parents (my in laws) were paying her way! 

I actually found out from MY SISTER (who doesn’t even know my SIL) that she had backed out of the wedding, then I was left with an uneven number of BMs and GMs. It was sooo hurtful and even though my husband brushed off the fact that his sister wasn’t going to be at his wedding (even though they’re super close), I know he cared.

I cannot imagine missing my siblings weddings… that’s so.. personal.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

(((Snake)))

so sorry honey 🙁 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh. Wouldn’t it be nice if family behaved like…well, FAMILY? My sister has decided she isn’t coming. Thankfully my parents are brining my nieces and nephew.

 

BIG hugs. Don’t let it get you down. Remember that you and your husband are no less married because they chose not to witness the marriage take place. Bask in your new wifely glow!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

double post, sorry

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Aw, I totally know how this feels.  We have gotten serious backlash from family (mostly on my fiance’s side) and some of it is the whole ‘no kids’ reasoning.  It’s hard – I hope that you can get past this soon.

We are two weeks away from the wedding – and I still have moments where I am furious with people for not coming.  Most of the time, I’m pretty much fine with it though – their loss.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know how you feel.

2 of my 3 brothers didn’t come to my wedding. My oldest brother didn’t give me a reason he just never rsvped and on the several occasions when my mom asked him if he was going he just asked the date and said he didn’t know if he’d be busy…I guess he was, seeing how he didn’t come. He did give my mom a card for us but i have a feeling it was his gf’s doing. My youngest brother said he might come by after work- he didn’t.

Neither have kids and both are older but live at home still and it wasnt distance the wedding was about 20 mins from their house…they just didnt want to come. 

I was sad but i know it was them not wanting to see the rest of my family as a whole not just me. 

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