Only sibling cant make wedding and theres more… SAD:(

posted 3 years ago in Military
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@FutureArmyWife12:  Very sorry to hear that. My brother is/was in the Marine Corps, so last year when I got married we didn’t know if he would make it home or not. Luckily he did get time off approved and came home for a few days. It is hard to be the sibling of a solider, especially since it seems you love your brother as much as I love mine. Hopefully you have the opportunity to Skype with him beforehand and just know that while it doesn’t make it easier he IS a hero and defending our country.

Perhaps you can “save him a seat” at the wedding or wear his picture on your bouquet? Just something to remind you he really is there? I don’t know if that sounds too memorial-ish, but perhaps that will help you.

Good luck and tell your brother thank you 🙂

Post # 5
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@FutureArmyWife12:  I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry! I know that’s not an easy thing to find out. My little (and only) brother is supposed to be a groomsman and he just got deployed to Japan for the next 4 years. Frown If you ever want to talk just drop me a line.

Post # 7
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Aw darling! That is very scary indeed and I am soo sorry that you haven’t been able to vent to your darling (mine is the same way). My cousin is in the marines and his first deployment was hard on me but I can’t imagine how it feels to have it be your brother! Darling just hang in there and everything will be okay! 

Post # 8
474 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry to hear about this. I know it’s scary and stressful, but it’s what they signed up for. All you can do is support them by writing them letters often and sending care packages. And know he’ll be safe because every person he’s with has his back to the fullest. 

My brother will also be deployed. He’ll be gone for a year and will also not be attending my wedding. I pretty much cried when I found out. He’s my older brother. We were very close growing up and I considered him more of a father figure because my bio dad was out of the picture and my step-dad worked 24/7. 

I know it’s hard, but you’ll get through this. We’re all here for you to sound off. 

Post # 9
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Sorry to hear that.  My brother was shipped off to Afghanistan and couldn’t make it to our sister’s wedding.   She had a station where people could write him notes and put them in a box.  She mailed the box to him the next week with some copies of guest pictures from the wedding.  He was really touched by it.


Even if you are unable to Skype, he will be there with you in spirit!  And you can still include and honor him in the day by leaving an empty chair reserved for him, or taking a moment of silence for you and your guests to think/pray for him and any other service members they know.


Deployments are really scary and really hard on the family, but we have to do everything we can to be there and supportive for our siblings.  But it is totally okay to not be okay.  Lean on your parents and siblings.  They’ll be there for you when you need to break down, like you’re there for them now.


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