Post # 1
So Its been a hard 12 or so hours, my family found out at 6pm last night that my only brother, my little brother was being deployed to Afganistan and he was heading to country at 8am today. It was so quick and sudden and not only am I absouletly sad and complete disconnected and numb today, my only true life long best friend wont be with me to make my special day that much better. I am trying to see if the day of my wedding I can Skype with him before the wedding to make sure he is included but we arent sure yet if its even possible. It is his 1st deployment and I am scared for him but of course am not showing it to him or my parents they all need someone to be grounded and hold it together. My brother recently got certified as a dog handler with the Army and he is going over there to work with his dog to sniff out bombs, so Im worried like crazy. And its so hard. I try and vent to FI as he has been deployed over there 3 times in the past 6 years but as supportive as he tries to be he only sees it from a soilders POV and can not see it from a family POV which I get, FI did say last night he would take my brothers place if he could.
Sorry this is more of a vent, my day just isnt the best, and any wedding planning is put on hold right now to handle this.
Post # 3
@FutureArmyWife12: Very sorry to hear that. My brother is/was in the Marine Corps, so last year when I got married we didn’t know if he would make it home or not. Luckily he did get time off approved and came home for a few days. It is hard to be the sibling of a solider, especially since it seems you love your brother as much as I love mine. Hopefully you have the opportunity to Skype with him beforehand and just know that while it doesn’t make it easier he IS a hero and defending our country.
Perhaps you can “save him a seat” at the wedding or wear his picture on your bouquet? Just something to remind you he really is there? I don’t know if that sounds too memorial-ish, but perhaps that will help you.
Good luck and tell your brother thank you 🙂
Post # 4
@megz06: Thank you for the support, and I like your ideas. I actually was talking to my mom about it last night. We are not quite sure what exactly we will do but I told her I definitly want to try and skype with him the day of if possible. Only problem with that is the time diffrence and we dont know if he’ll be out on mission.
Again thank you so much, Im happy to hear your brother had approved leave to come home for your wedding, mine however they have already said no. 🙁
So skype it shall be I think 🙂
Post # 5
@FutureArmyWife12: I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry! I know that’s not an easy thing to find out. My little (and only) brother is supposed to be a groomsman and he just got deployed to Japan for the next 4 years. If you ever want to talk just drop me a line.
Post # 6
@springbride23: Thank you, he is my only sibling and my little brother, My FI just got back from his third tour over there last year. And we had our fingers crossed that my brother wouldnt go.
My FI was suppose to go back again this Oct but his date to deploy was moved around a few times then canceled along with all his friends in other states that were schedule to deploy the end of this year. So when my brothers date started to move around we though, oh thank god it could be canceled, and then he got orders and was leaving in less then 24 hours.
I wish he could be there. But I think I wish more now that he comes home soon and safe, ten fingers, ten toes.
Post # 7
Aw darling! That is very scary indeed and I am soo sorry that you haven’t been able to vent to your darling (mine is the same way). My cousin is in the marines and his first deployment was hard on me but I can’t imagine how it feels to have it be your brother! Darling just hang in there and everything will be okay!
Post # 8
I’m sorry to hear about this. I know it’s scary and stressful, but it’s what they signed up for. All you can do is support them by writing them letters often and sending care packages. And know he’ll be safe because every person he’s with has his back to the fullest.
My brother will also be deployed. He’ll be gone for a year and will also not be attending my wedding. I pretty much cried when I found out. He’s my older brother. We were very close growing up and I considered him more of a father figure because my bio dad was out of the picture and my step-dad worked 24/7.
I know it’s hard, but you’ll get through this. We’re all here for you to sound off.
Post # 9
Sorry to hear that. My brother was shipped off to Afghanistan and couldn’t make it to our sister’s wedding. She had a station where people could write him notes and put them in a box. She mailed the box to him the next week with some copies of guest pictures from the wedding. He was really touched by it.
Even if you are unable to Skype, he will be there with you in spirit! And you can still include and honor him in the day by leaving an empty chair reserved for him, or taking a moment of silence for you and your guests to think/pray for him and any other service members they know.
Deployments are really scary and really hard on the family, but we have to do everything we can to be there and supportive for our siblings. But it is totally okay to not be okay. Lean on your parents and siblings. They’ll be there for you when you need to break down, like you’re there for them now.