Post # 1
So, apparently somehow we booked the cocktail hour, start of reception/dinner and some vendors based on a 1:30 ceremony start time, but we sent out invitations and booked the church with a 1:00 start time.
I know….really stupid. 🙁
That half an hour will be really helpful with getting my hair done as well as the hair and make-up for my mom and all my bridesmaids. When I was originally really nervous about making it there in time for the 1:00 as was my hairdresser. Also, since the videographer and photographer were booked for the later slot, they wouldn’t be there till later which could cause things to be pushed back even more.
Everything would flow much better and work better at 1:30….however, the invitations (most important part…say 1:00).
Do I try to change with the reception and vendors or do we contact people and tell them there was a timing mistake on the invitations???
Not to mention – Fiance and I don’t agree. My fiance wants to do 1:00 because he is embarrassed about contacting people (rightfully so) and thinks we should stick to the routine we have outlined to everyone.
I, on the other hand, am leaning towards 1:30 because I would like to be able to enjoy my morning and not be rushed with hair, gifts, etc and without proper time with videographer and photographer. Also 1:30 would mean less of a big gap between ceremony and reception. ugh!
Please help! Did this happen to anyone else?? As a guest, what would you think??
Also advice on how to go about either option would be greatly appreciated!!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry about being embarrassed to contact the guests, I wouldn’t think anything of it if a couple let me know it had been pushed back 30mins!
Post # 4
What if you aim for 1:15?
Guests will arrive for 1 and you’ll be sure everyone is there and not coming in late. They’ll just think you’re running a bit late, which is slightly annoying, but most people would understand that this is common in a wedding. As long as it isn’t a huge amount of time for the delay I think it’d be OK.
Post # 5
@Hemnes: Thanks for the help! what do you think would be a good way to contact them / how would you like to be contacted so you didn’t think it was a big deal?
Post # 7
I don’t think you really have to do anything. We put 5:00 on our invitations but planned to start at 5:30 so people wouldn’t be late. In actuality, we started at 5:15.
WHy don’t you just leave it all as is, but aim to start at 1:15?
I always assume a wedding will start 30 minutes late!
Post # 8
@creativeplannertobee: @Jennlee: So you don’t think half an hour would be too long to make guests wait?
Post # 9
@HappinessIsInDaisies: I would just start at 1:15. You get an extra 15-20 minutes, and that should be fine for people waiting, and good planning for stragglers.
Post # 10
@HappinessIsInDaisies: I think a half hour would be OK but you might have people grumbling a little, especially those who arrived early.
I’d aim for 1:15. Then if you run later due to this and that you’ve still probably got some play there before people start getting mad. If you plan for 1:30 it might be OK but if you start running later than that as things crop up you might hear about it.
Post # 11
I would be grumbling if it started late. Even if it started at 1:15 I would be grumbling. How many people would you have to call to tell about the time change? I would suggest contacting people, maybe enlist your family to help you reach out?
Post # 12
@MrsBeck: Well I don’t think it would be too bad. All the americans on my side are getting there by a wedding bus. So they are comfy at their hotel and will leave when the bus tells them to leave. No big deal there. There are probably only about 40 irish people we would need to contact – so I don’t think spreading the word would be difficult.
It’s just my fiance hates the idea of calling/emailing everyone to tell them because he feels it is in bad form. (Which i agree, i just think that is less of bad form than making people wait….)
Post # 13
At my brother’s wedding, his bride was having a major meltdown/bridezilla moment about her hair. The ceremony was supposed to start at 3:00 PM…. it didn’t start until 4:30 PM. Luckily, everyone got some drinks while they were waiting and chatted amoung themselves. No one seemed to mind as long as they had something to occupy their time. It was almost like they did the cocktail hour before the ceremony and then went right to the reception!
Post # 14
@HappinessIsInDaisies: I don’t think it’s bad form to about that you made a mistake and I would much rather be called and told about it than sit there for 15-30 minutes. I think it will be much less stressful for you if you have that extra half hour. If you don’t call and just decide to start late I think you might be stressed just because you know people are sitting and waiting (or at least that would stress me out).
As a guest I wouldn’t mind being called and told it’s a half hour later. You still have over three weeks until your wedding so I think most people should have time to adjust their schedules. Also, as a guest I would rather have the smaller gap between the ceremony and reception. Good luck with whatever you decide to do 🙂