Ooops, made a pretty big timing mistake.

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What would you do if you made a timing error?
    1:00start -deal w/being rushed,running late,suffer problems w/reception&vendors, but no angry guests : (20 votes)
    10 %
    1:30start -better flow&more relaxed on the day but must contact all the guests +suffer the backlash : (46 votes)
    24 %
    Just arrive late, its you're day and guests will just have to wait : (22 votes)
    12 %
    Go over budget + pay for extra hairdresser and pull all strings possible with vendors : (9 votes)
    5 %
    No idea - you're screwed! : (1 votes)
    1 %
    If I were a guest I WOULD NOT be offended if the couple contacted me about a 1/2 hr time change : (44 votes)
    23 %
    If I were a guest I WOULD be offended if the couple contacted me about a 1/2 hr time change : (3 votes)
    2 %
    If I were a guest I would NOT mind sitting for half hour if things were running late : (23 votes)
    12 %
    If I were a guest, I WOULD mind sitting for half an hour if things were running late : (23 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wouldn’t worry about being embarrassed to contact the guests, I wouldn’t think anything of it if a couple let me know it had been pushed back 30mins!

    Post # 4
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    What if you aim for 1:15?  

    Guests will arrive for 1 and you’ll be sure everyone is there and not coming in late.  They’ll just think you’re running a bit late, which is slightly annoying, but most people would understand that this is common in a wedding.  As long as it isn’t a huge amount of time for the delay I think it’d be OK.



    Post # 7
    11761 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think you really have to do anything. We put 5:00 on our invitations but planned to start at 5:30 so people wouldn’t be late. In actuality, we started at 5:15.

    WHy don’t you just leave it all as is, but aim to start at 1:15?

    I always assume a wedding will start 30 minutes late!

    Post # 9
    7761 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  I would just start at 1:15.  You get an extra 15-20 minutes, and that should be fine for people waiting, and good planning for stragglers. 

    Post # 10
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  I think a half hour would be OK but you might have people grumbling a little, especially those who arrived early.  

    I’d aim for 1:15.  Then if you run later due to this and that you’ve still probably got some play there before people start getting mad.  If you plan for 1:30 it might be OK but if you start running later than that as things crop up you might hear about it.

    Post # 11
    7007 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would be grumbling if it started late. Even if it started at 1:15 I would be grumbling. How many people would you have to call to tell about the time change? I would suggest contacting people, maybe enlist your family to help you reach out?

    Post # 13
    12 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    At my brother’s wedding, his bride was having a major meltdown/bridezilla moment about her hair. The ceremony was supposed to start at 3:00 PM…. it didn’t start until 4:30 PM. Luckily, everyone got some drinks while they were waiting and chatted amoung themselves. No one seemed to mind as long as they had something to occupy their time. It was almost like they did the cocktail hour before the ceremony and then went right to the reception!

    Post # 14
    7007 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  I don’t think it’s bad form to about that you made a mistake and I would much rather be called and told about it than sit there for 15-30 minutes. I think it will be much less stressful for you if you have that extra half hour. If you don’t call and just decide to start late I think you might be stressed just because you know people are sitting and waiting (or at least that would stress me out).

    As a guest I wouldn’t mind being called and told it’s a half hour later. You still have over three weeks until your wedding so I think most people should have time to adjust their schedules. Also, as a guest I would rather have the smaller gap between the ceremony and reception. Good luck with whatever you decide to do 🙂

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