- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I’m 6 months out from my wedding date and need advice on a wedding/ering.
Anyone who has followed me knows, and a quick update –
My FH realized the day of the proposal I did not like my e-ring. He was disappointed I didn’t like it. I tried to tell him only the meaning matters, but he remained disappointed I didn’t like it.
My mother was upset FH didn’t ask my dad’s permission before hand, she has a heirloom diamond from my grandmother she was hoping could be my e-ring.
FAST FORWARD –
We won a pair of Tungsten wedding bands. My FH loves his, thinks its perfect. It’s not black, its a darker metal and its durable. It’s shiny and doesn’t scratch easy – he loves the design. Done.
It does not REMOTELY match my platinum plated (yeah, that’s another story) e-ring.
In fact, they completely mismatch.
(a) Wear the Tungsten wedding band on my left hand, move e-ring to my right?
(b) Keep the Tungsten band for my camping, sports activities etc (we’re pretty active) and get a shiny one to go with the e-ring for work/dressy occassions?
(c) Ditch the Tungsten band, buy a shiny/sparkly band I like that enhances my e-ring so I like it more? Keep the original e-ring for sentimental reasons.
(d) Keep the Tungsten band but take up FH’s offer and together, go select a few rings I like as a wedding ring that he will give to me on my wedding day (he wants to surprise me with someone I like, wants me to like my ring).
Then throw the e-ring “overboard) on a dinner cruise. (we love the Titanic reference) as sort of a ritualistic letting go of what’s becoem an everyone has an opinion on my e-ring.
What would you do?
I was tempted to do (C) but haven’t really looked, and my FH actually mentioned (D) the other day out of the blue to me. Suggesting we “let it go” and throw it overboard on a romantic dinner cruise out of NYC post-wedding.