- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I know I haven’t been on here long, but I’ve been lurking and wanted to share what’s been going on and see if anyone else has had a similar experience.
After letting the BF know that I’d much prefer moissanite to a diamond (seriously, no judgment of anyone here– personally, I’m more comfortable with the “ethics”, but mostly I’m a huge cheapskate, even when I’m not the one buying something), I sent him some links to things I thought I might like, mostly on Etsy. He comes back with something about “I looked at those, that’s cool, but I’ve been looking at [big-name moissanite dealer website, not Moissaniteco] and I think there are a lot of things on there like what you want.”
I looked at that site. And… yeah, I didn’t see anything like what I wanted. Mind you, I mainly just want simple, low-set, not likely to get caught on anything, but cute enough that I won’t have to constantly explain that it’s an engagement ring.
After bringing it up a few times and mostly getting a response of “Don’t worry about it, I’m taking care of this”, I just told him all the insanity I was building up– there’s more than I’ve gone into here, about feeling like he was shutting me out of something I thought we would do together, and so on. And he says something like “Well, I picked one out from that first Etsy shop on your list, it’s being made. I wanted it to be a surprise, but I don’t want you to be so upset about this!”
So. I’m embarrassed, but in a way I’m glad I had this freakout before he actually got the ring so I wouldn’t get a “shut up/don’t be upset” proposal. Now I really need to back off and let him do whatever surprise he wants to do, and remember that it’s all going to be fine.
Have any of you had any experiences like that, of finding out or being told things you sort of wish you didn’t know because you were freaking out?
(Oh and… it’s something from here, but I didn’t want him to tell me what. I am going to go crazy trying to figure it out. Fun!)