Post # 1
At work we all have little cubbies they call our “mailboxes” that the boss sticks important papers in. Memos about the next meeting, days we are short staffed requesting people to come in, general notices. I was at work and noticed everyone had a flyer in their box but me. Stupid me, I’m thinking did someone accidently grab mine? What if it’s days they need extra help? (I’ve been trying to work overtime to save for the wedding) So I decide to check someone else’s flyer to see if it’s anything important.
Ugh! They are planning a surprise bridal shower for me at work! I feel so honored, but dumb for finding out about it when they planned on surprising me. I shouldn’t have been so nosy! I never would have expected it and apparently it’s four months from now, I have no idea why they are planning it already.
Should I just pretend that I never saw it? I feel so guilty! I wasn’t expecting anything from them.
Post # 3
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Repeat after me… What Shower ??
Yes hon you need to FORGET you ever saw that.
Let the people have their day / fun for you
And CONGRATULATIONS… you have awesome coworkers / friends in life.
Surprise Showers can be a lot of fun (and great memories) ENJOY !!
Post # 4
@This Time Round: Thanks for that, I guess I just felt so guilty! I wasn’t expecting it and I was a little overcome with emotion. It’s so far away at this and anything could happen in that time and for all I know nothing will happen at all so I shouldn’t expect anything. At least that’s what I’m convincing myself.
Post # 5
@BriansBride: Aw, I’m sorry you found out about it! I probably would have done the same thing though. I hate feeling left out! Your coworkers are so sweet though!! Definitely act surprised!
Post # 6
I believe in being honest if you’re ever asked if you knew. However, I completely agree with @This Time Round: — at this point, just choose to set this information aside and try your best not to even think about it.
I don’t believe it would serve any constructive purpose for you to tell anyone what you saw, and there is no harm at all in allowing whoever is planning the event to move forward in doing so without any comments or interference from the guest of honor.
You cannot be 100-percent certain what may happen between now and then to cause this event to have to be rescheduled — or even canceled — given any scheduled or unplanned work issues, so, for now, just allow the knowledge that your co-workers care about you to make you feel good inside. 🙂
If the promoted date and time comes, and there actually is a shower for you, you can sincerely claim to be honored and happy! If anyone there asks if you ever suspected, then you can tell your story of finding the fliers. By then, I think you’ll all be having too much fun at the shower for anyone to be upset that you had some advance notice of the festivities. 🙂
Post # 7
@Brielle: Wise woman *wink*
I am a lot like you… I hate to tell a lie… but I’ve learned in my lifetime how to artfully bend the truth as far as it will go… by using “certain” words or leaving out others. Telling the truth is admirable, but sometimes so is the knowing way not to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Always chuckle when I hear that age old dilemma that so many men talk about
“Honey do I look fat in this”
The correct answer is always…
“Honey (or in my case… Mom, Sister, Daughter, Girlfriend) you don’t look fat at all… you look wonderful. How do you feel tho, you sound unsure / upset / stressed and that bothers me… I don’t like to know you are feeling down about yourself”
Feelings ALWAYS take priority over Looks !!
Post # 8
Thank you so much everyone. You made me feel a lot better.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@BriansBride: I had to laugh because that is SO something I would do! I’m so nosy. Like others said, just pretend to be surprised and you’ll be all good 🙂