Post # 1
I am getting married at a site about 2 hours outside of a major city. Most of the guests are within a 2-3 hour drive of the site, and some are planning to drive up and back on the same day. Some are coming up and just staying Sat. night. The wedding party and close family will all be up there Fri. night as well.
Here’s my question – would it be tacky to make OOT bags only for the guests who are staying up there both nights (or longer)? It is partially the money (maybe $4-5 per bag), but also the effort of figuring out exactly who will be staying up there Sat. night. They are more than happy to confirm names for me at the site, but I’m sure not everyone has booked under our wedding group. Its not that I don’t appreciate their effort, but 3 weeks out am trying to save all the steps I can. Also, I made a door hanger that took a lot of effort and only have a few extra beyond those who are staying both nights so I will definitely only have those in the more-than-one-night folks.
This would likely be about 60 or so bags if everyone is included, vs. about 40 for those staying both nights. Full dinner and open bar, rooms are $70-100 if that matters.
Post # 3
I think you should include everyone, because I’d hate for someone to mention how cute the OOT bags are to someone who didn’t get one.
I think if you gave one to everyone booked under your wedding group, you’d be safe. Maybe that will save you some bags.
Post # 4
Not sure if you meant that you have 60 guests or 60 couples, but I am only doing one bag per room, so couples get one bag with 2 of each item in them.
Post # 5
I agree, I know the extra work and expense is tough to swallow but doing so now will save potential awkwardness/stress later during the wedding weekend, AND all of the kudos you’ll receive from grateful OOT folks will make it all worthwhile in the end!
Post # 6
Thanks, guys, you’re right. I will just keep the bigger number of bags in mind, and maybe decrease the amount of snacks I put in each one, or something. It isn’t that big of a deal to find where everyone is staying. 🙂
Post # 7
Unfortunately I have to agree with oracle. You don’t want people feeling jilted or left out because they ‘only’ stayed one night and therefore didn’t get one. That’s just one of those things that although it costs a little more now (maybe a lot more now I don’t know how many we are talking here), it may save you family heartache/drama in the future. Sounds like a cute idea though! 🙂 I would just double check with the hotel and find out who is staying when – if people weren’t smart enough to book under the wedding name… oh well! 🙂
Post # 8
gotta agree too; could you do ome sort of scaled down version for the ‘shorter’ term guests? to save money and not have to DIY more door hangers?