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posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are oot bags essentials?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    7 %
    No : (38 votes)
    88 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    5 %
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    greencardwedding    June 2009  

    All of my family and friends have either, or do live in MA so I dont think OOT bags would be neccessary for them. But what about the few people coming from Australia. We are ony getting home 1 week before the wedding and I don't feel like I will have the time to do them and I have only jsut heard about them from these boards. Will anyone care if we don't do them?

    What about bathroom baskets? Again this is a new concept to me.

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    I don't think they will be missed, honestly, I've never been to a wedding with one and while the sentiment is nice, I don't think its crucial.

    Same with bathroom baskets. I wouldn't miss them if they weren't there.

     
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    fizicsGirl    8/1/2009   Michigan

    I don't think they are necessary.  But if you're guests are coming from so far away, it might be nice to do something for them.  That's quite a financial and time commitment to attend your wedding.  You may be able to order a pre-made basket/bag for them.

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    i wouldnt stress so much about the bags. as an aussie, if i was arriving i would have already done alot of homework online on what i wanted to do with my spare time so i wouldnt expect a goodies bag on arrival. as long as the hotel has maps at their desk i would be happy

    btw, ive seen on other posts that when leaving the goodies bags for their OOT guest, the hotel has charged the bride a few dollars per bag to hand out on checkin so be warned

     

     
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    Tanya123      

    I don't think either of these things are essential.  I think they are nice.  But I also think they are a newer concept.  I've been to weddings that have had both.  I think they're nice, but I would't think less if I didn't have them.

    In order to get your guests acquainted with the area, could you put some info on your website?  Invitations?  If worse comes to worse, our OOT guests, who are staying at hotels will always have those tourist attractions stands in the lobby to direct them if they want somethign to do.

     
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    June Bug    June 5, 2010   Boulder, CO; McDonough, GA

    I agree. It's a nice touch by all means, especially if your guests are coming from far away, but I don't think by any means are necessary. 

    If it was still something you kind of wanted to do, maybe you could kind of do something really limited, like a welcome letter and a small gift or a water bottle or something. 

     
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    july09bridetobe    July 25, 2009  

    I've only been to one wedding that had out of town bags. To be honest, I thought it looked like a waste of money. Nice thought, but a bag full of odds and ends that weren't really needed. About half our guest list is coming from out of town. I'm don't think I'll do bags, but if I think of something or things that I think would be really nice or thoughtful I'll do it.

    I don't think guests miss them when they arrive.

     
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    alshv2    6/6/2009   St. Louis

    Agreed. All those little extra touches, like OOT bags and bathroom baskets, are certainly nice and might be a good way to make your guests feel special and appreciated. However, I think they are by no means necessary and that no one will miss them if they aren't there. Don't stress about it- save yourself that valuable time the week before the wedding.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I think they are a nice gesture but definitely not expected. I've never gotten one at an out of town wedding. I'm making gift bags for my bridesmaid and her mom who are coming from california (but staying with me) and my friend who is flying in from pennsylvania and is helping out a LOT with the behind-the-scenes wedding stuff. I would only want to make one if i knew it was going to be useful items, not junk they don't need. Junk adds up fast!

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    They are not essential but they are nice gestures. I have not decided as to whether we will have them because we would need 20 - 30 bags but if possible I would love to make them. Ah, another DIY project. This will definitely be a last minute decision.

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    I've never received an OOT bag and I've been an out-of-towner at every wedding I've ever attended, so I'd say no. Yes, I suppose it is a nice gesture, but to me it's one of those things that is completely expendable unless your wedding budget is ginormous.

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I think you can also do a budget OOT "bag", as in you don't have to have goodies in them, but maybe just leave a letter in their rooms with suggestions for things to do while they are in town, necessary information, directions, and a contact number or two for people that can be helpful if they are confused or lost at some point. Attach a map of the area, and you're good! The expense should be minimal (print it all up at home), it should take much time (especially if you delegate it!!) and the gesture will be very appreciated.

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    UPDATE: my Mom told me that we should do the OOT bags. She had received one last weekend at my cousins wedding in Florida. She thought they were cute and thoughtful and can really be inexpensive. So there it is. We are doing it.

    I have already started speaking with companies to provide me with free brochures for things around the area (Dorney Park, Crayola Factory, etc.). I am even writing up direction cards for the newly built Sands Casino. My Mom and I have made candy before so we will also do that and other yummy goodies. We will also give a little trinket representing my hometown.

     
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    mdarrah    4/4/09   Los Angeles, CA

    Essiential?  Nope.  But a nice gesture - yup.  We had a lot of people thank us for the ones we gave out. Nothing special, but the small things were useful and welcomed.

     

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