Post # 1
Future in laws want open bar all night at wedding, I don’t for various personal reasons. They would be paying for it. I clearly stated my opinion but doesn’t seem to be resonating which has become frustrating; it’s like my opinion on it doesn’t even matter. I am thinking about caving but enforcing them to pay for after night transportation back to hotel and to ask the reception hall to cut off people that need to be cut off. What do other people think?
Post # 3
I could use some help on this.
Post # 4
Depending on your venue and the liquor laws there, they have to by law cut people off. They may also have time limits since ultimately they are responsible in many cases.
I’m sorry no one is listening to you! What does your FI think of it all? See if you can compromise on either closing the bar and hour before your reception ends or limiting what is served.
If they still don’t budge, then ask them to provide transportation for the safety and well being of your family.
It’s a tough one. We’re having the opposite debate in our families now. I always tell the brides I work with that the bar is one of the hardest parts to figure out in a reception. Often worse than the seating.
Post # 5
In your preference what would you want for alcohol?
I am personally a big proponent for open bar but because your ILs are insisting I don’t think it would be unreasonable for them to contribute to some of the related costs.
Additionally, I don’t know how it is where you live but here in Ontario bartenders are legally responsible for cutting off overly intoxicated patrons.
Post # 6
Batenders legally HAVE to cut people off who are too drunk, and if you notice they are beeing too lenient you can tell them to be more strict as well. I think if I were in your shoes I would probably go ahead and let them pay and have it. Most people are adult enough to handle themselves. But I guess if you feel very strongly about no open bar and are not going to offend the in laws too much then put your foot down.
Post # 7
I would share your personal reasons with the inlaws to maybe shed some light on why you oppose it so much… If you have an open bar tell your guests ahead of time about the shuttle service. A lot of time if you call the hotel in advance (if all of your guests are staying in a room block etc) since you are bringing so much business to them they will provide a shuttle for your guests free of charge. Good luck!