(Closed) Open bar or Cash Bar – Vote

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should we have open bar or cash bar?
    Open Bar : (169 votes)
    70 %
    Cash Bar : (43 votes)
    18 %
    Subsidized Bar : (30 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    In my personal opinion, if you can’t afford to have an open bar, I would just go without a bar.  Another option if your venue allows it, is to supply your own alcohol.  We are on a very tight budget, and an open bar seemed pretty difficult, so we are supplying the liquor ourselves and having our caterer’s supply the bartender.  We have a while, but according to our own math, it will be cheaper, and we get to keep the leftovers!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I know there are mixed opinions about this, but I think if you are inviting people to a party, its only proper that you provide food and drinks for them. I know this all depends on religion and how your family usually does things. We are having an open bar because we dont want our guests to have to worry about anything, we want them to have a great time and enjoy a fun party that we are hosting! ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    As a fellow Ontario Bride, I totally understand where you are coming from. Drinks can run up to $5 each! That could end up being a pretty insane bill at the end of the night. We opted to do a twoonie bar. It is still putting us over our budget, but I think our guests will appreciate the gesture. I honestly have never been to a wedding with a completely open bar!

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Could you do just beer and wine or signature cocktails instead of a full open bar?  That could certainly save some money.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I know cash bars are somewhat disfavored on the wedding circuit, and as for me personally, I don’t want guests to have to pay for drinks at my wedding – or at least basic things like beer and wine.  But I will also say that I have been to several weddings where it was a cash bar and I didn’t even bat an eye.  I wasn’t offended, I didn’t think negative things about the bride, I just pulled out my wallet and got myself a damn cocktail and had a good time.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    I don’t really like the idea of drink tickets, however…something about them just seems very impersonal to me, like you’re at a fundraiser or something.  If you want to subsidize some of the bar, look into options such as hosted beer and wine, with cocktails on a cash basis, or hosting the bar for one hour or two and then having it turn into a cash bar after that.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are providing 2 drink tickets per guest, plus a champagne toast and 2 bottles of wine per table.  We can’t afford a cash bar because it is consumption based.  Drinks are $5.75 a drink plus tip and that could get really out of control.  Plus British Columbia has really tough drinking and driving laws so we don’t want to be responsible for people drinking too much.  Everyone that we have told about what we are doing thought that we were providing more than enough alcohol.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Ok, so I’m Canadian, and I’ve noticed that we’re always on here saying cash bars are just fine, so it may be a regional thing, but I’ve never been to a wedding with full open bar.

    We had the servers come around twice and offer wine, and people could also get more at the bar for no cost.  We also had one drink ticket per person, and any non-alcoholic was free. 

    To me, I kind of thought that this would work out as more than enough, and if people wanted to get drunk, that should be on their own dime. 

    ETA: I notice you’re Canadian too now ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Its common around here to have a partial open bar i.e. beer, soda and wine.  We are doing that plus, I made some cute drink tickets for a cocktail hour so everyone gets a drink.  After that any hard alcohol drink will be cash. In Milwaukee its pretty impossible to find a place that will allow you to bring in your own alcohol and drinks get expensive!  For an hour open bar at my venue they charge 16 per person (plus 26% tax and grautity)  I don’t think its possibly to drink $20 worth of alcohol in an hour!  I know so many people frown upon this and say to invite less people, but I think it would offend more people to not invite them to our wedding!  We are expecting about 270 people, and about half of that is family who don’t really drink.  So please everyone don’t tell me how horrible I am by providing them with $75 per person worth of food and drink even though its not open bar.    

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    every wedding i have been to was a cash bar. i personally dont think people go to weddings expecting open bar anymore(money is tight everywhere). maybe it depends on age?? the weddings i have gone to are peers so between 21-27 years.

    Im canadian too! ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Can you do a limited bar, like just wine and beer? Or what about hosting until a certain time?

    As a guest I would personally rather have a cash bar than no bar, but I think I may be in the minority.  Unless I know the bride well enough to ask about the situation, I would always have cash, a credit card and my ID ready, just in case!

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I agree with the other posters that wine should be available at no cost. I think it is pretty standard anyway that there`s two bottles of wine per table at dinner (and replaced as needed).

    Post # 11
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    This topic tends to get heated.

    I’d be lieing if I said I don’t mind cash bars. I would never not attend a wedding or be miserable due to one but It’s almost guaranteed that I will have a better time if given some “liquid courage” (you will not see me on the dance floor unless I have a little boost!). I definitely don’t think couples have to offer a full open bar but atleast beer, wine and soda (which is what we’re serving) would be nice. 

    With that said, it’s your wedding so do what you want to do. However, if you choose to go the cash bar route I would suggest letting your guests know so that they can be prepared. We went to a wedding a few years ago that had a cash bar. As it turns out the venue (some Knights of Columbus type of place) didn’t take credit cards and since we didn’t know, we didn’t have any cash on us. We had to leave the wedding and drive almost a half an hour round trip just to go to the nearest ATM. We could have done without alcohol for the night but they were even charging for soda! 

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Every wedding I’ve been to has had an open bar. I think a cash bar in my opinion is a little tacky. I would rather not have any alchol at all. I know some people that go to a wedding with a blank check and depending on how good the wedding is, meaning, good food and open bar that determines how much they will give the bride and groom. I don’t agree with this but I can see why they do it.

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