Post # 1
I was hoping to get some advice, and see what other people’s preferences are. I’m considering closing my bar an hour early (it would be open for three hours, from 630-930), and hiring a coffee catering company to come and make yummy cold/hot coffee, coacoa, etc. for two hours before the ceremony is over (930-1130). Im thinking it will be great because then it will help people sober up before their drive home, and keep everyone safe. I will probably have a bottle of liquer (like kahlua) available at the coffee bar, for guests who really feel like they need more to drink (or maybe arnt driving).
My worry is that people will be upset that I close the bar two hours before the reception ends. But I know from experience with both my and FI family, they drink the heaviest the first two hours, and then are “good to go” for the rest of the night anyways. What do you think? Should I go for it? Would you be upset?
Post # 3
Toughie! I voted coffee bar for the last 2 hours because I think I’d appreciate it, but a lot of people I know would be disappointed to have the bar close that early, and they might end up leaving earlier than planned.
Post # 4
I had a coffee bar, and honestly, not that many people used it. A few people had irish coffees, but the majority of people will still drinking alcohol with the cake.
Post # 5
@MrsTVLover: We are having a small wedding(70 people), mostly family and older family friends. Was this similar to your wedding? I can see my friends being disappointed, but I am unsure if our family would care much.
Post # 6
I don’t drink coffee in the evening/at night, so I would MUCH rather have the open bar open later.
Post # 7
Ours was 100 ppl, but I guess I would call it a mix of older and younger
Post # 8
I wouldn’t want caffeine that late, and to me decaf is no fun (I don’t enjoy coffee THAT much), and I’d probably be bummed that the bar closed and there is still 2 hours of dancing left and I’d likely leave. Closing a bar tends to signal the closing of the night.
Post # 9
Open bar…I don’t drink coffee at night. And I’d probably think that meant your reception was over and leave within an hour of the coffee bar.
Post # 10
It depends what the style of your reception is – if you want dancing, then I would say no coffee because people won’t want to drink hot coffee while shaking their groove thing. However, if you are not having dancing, then coffee is the perfect dessert/ after dinner “sit and relax” kind of drink.
Post # 11
I voted open bar. The coffee bar sounds yummy, but I don’t think enough people would use it to make it worth while – especially for 2 hours. Coffee is great for after dinner, but not so much right before you go home and go to bed. I think people would much prefer to get a beer than a coffee for the last few hours of the reception.
Post # 12
@MsJ2theZ: I come from a family of coffee drinkers, they literally drink a cup right before they go to bed and probably have 4-5 cups a day! I think they are the MAIN reason I was even considering this as an option, because they dont drink, and oddly enough my venue doesnt offer coffee, so I feel bad!
Post # 13
I think you’d be fine either way. Personally, as a guest, I probably wouldn’t use the coffee part of it much during the reception, but that’s mainly because I’m just a one-cup-in-the-morning kind of girl.
Honestly, it depends on your family, friends, and if they like to drink. I know that we want a full bar for four hours because we want folks to dance and enjoy themselves and that’s honestly, for us, more likely to happen with an open bar. And you might need to be prepared that some folks might leave a little early if the bar shuts down early.
If you’re worried about people driving home, you could always offer a shuttle to the hotel you’re using. Or, I’d just trust that everyone would either have a DD or would call a taxi if it’s what they needed to get home.
Post # 14
I’d love the coffee bar! I’m not a big drinker so that’s probably why.
I think it really depends on the crowd the younger guests would most likely want the open bar and the older guests the coffee bar.
Post # 15
I had a coffee/tea bar. HUGE waste of money! I saw ONE person drinking tea. Everyone else was drinking Mimosas!
Post # 16
I’m a coffee and alcohol drinker…but I wouldn’t drink coffee at night.
I vote to just do the open bar. Some folks leave the wedding and go someplace else after if it’s on a weekend night, and I wouldn’t want to kill my buzz with coffee, honestly. We rarely go straight home if we’re all dressed up and a reception ends 11-12.
**of course I always have a cab or designated driver.