Post # 1
Would you consider the following an open bar?
We are going to serve wine with dinner and on top of that anyone of legal drinking age will receive drink tickets (probably 5) at their table. There will be no cash bar. Once those tickets are gone, that’s it (except our parents might hand out a few extras if people aren’t trashed). We are trying to go for the open bar option, but there are some guests we are worried about. Non-alcoholic drinks will not require a ticket.
Legally, a venue can’t serve unlimited drinks to guests, the bartenders are responsible for cutting people off, we’re just hoping this will avoid some problems that might occur if a bartender did tell someone they were cut off!
Post # 3
I understand your desire to keep some people from going overboard, but this will just come off as you being cheap. Having worked as a bartender in grad school I can tell you that they are trained to know when to cut someone off. If you are particularly worried about certain people you could have someone point out those people to the bartender so that he/she knows who to particularly watch out for.
Post # 4
i like your idea! i feel like 5 tickets per person is a lot… keep in mind these people have to get home! and since grandma probably won’t use all of hers, they will get passed on to other. but in general i like your idea because people can’t get sloshed, aand it will help cut down on your costs vs. if you just had an OPEN open bar.
Post # 5
@blg529: What would you suggest someone do if they cannot afford to have an open bar? I can pretty much ONLY afford 2 drinks per person.
Post # 6
This was a compromise from someone who wanted a dry wedding (my non-drinking fiance) to people who wanted a full open bar (my parents). Can you tell which side pretty much won? When I said 5 tickets my mom commented that some guys like their beer can drink a fair amount over a long reception. I pointed out it’s 10 drinks per couple, plus wine, so she backed down. I would have liked to go a bit lower (3, since there is also the wine at dinner) but she can be a little difficult. It took me a while to even talk her into this!
I realize bartenders are capable of cutting people off, but there are some people who could potentially cause a large scene if this happened. We’re hoping by being open up front that there will be a limited amount of alcohol per guest there will be less arguing.
Post # 7
I’ve gone to weddings where there have been drink tickets, and it worked out fine, one I went to had it set up that you bought drink tickets, which then bought you booze everyone loved it because it made it so much cheaper to drink
Post # 8
We’re not too worried about people passing tickets around. The people who really like to drink tend to be all friends with each other, they will all want their drink tickets for themselves
I think other than sharing within a couple we won’t have people passing them around. Since there isn’t a cash bar, I think with 5 tickets most of our guests will realize it’s to prevent overindulging and wouldn’t want to contribute to that.
Post # 9
What about having some restrictions? For example, my venue will not allow shots. I’m not worried about any of my guests going overboard, but I know that for a lot of people, they’ll go overboard when they drink a lot in a short amount of time (shots!).
Post # 10
@krobbie: Thanks! I forgot to mention that. No shots or doubles.
If someone is really offended, there’s a casino on site, they can leave our wedding and go buy drinks there! If drinking is more important to someone than celebrating with us then good riddance to them!