- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I need some advice please bees.
My FI started a new job 3 weeks ago and was really excited because of the amount of money he would be making. He figured out that he could pay off all of his student loan bills as well as other bills in as little as two years, if he spent his money very conservatively elsewhere. Well, it hasn’t turned out so hot.
He’s quitting today after an extremely difficult three weeks. He’s so upset at the company that when they hand him his pay check today, he’s getting out of his chair and leaving without saying a word.
Now, with all of this said (and it’s very vague, I’m sorry), yesterday when he was telling me about the problems he’s been having at work, for the 698347 millionth time, he ended with, “Please don’t tell anyone that this is going on, I’d rather people not know.”
!!! What?! I wish he would have asked me to keep my big mouth shut last week when it started happening, because I needed to hear another person’s view point and told my best friend all about it (we work together). A co-worker overheard and offered advice as well. NOT ONLY THIS, but my boss ALSO overheard (really, I wasn’t talking loudly or about it all day, I just work in a small business where everyone knows everyone elses business, even if they don’t want to know it -there are only two other employees, besides me and the boss).
This wouldn’t be so terrible except that I feel awful that I didn’t know he wanted me to keep this between us. If I would have known, I wouldn’t have said anything at all to anyone. When I talked to my best friend about it, and everyone else at work for that matter, I asked each one of them to please not say anything to anyone, especially my FI because he’s really upset about it. They all said they wouldn’t say a word, and I trust them. I’m just so worried that he’s going to be disappointed when he finds out, and he will find out because we talk about everything and the guilt is going to get to me.
What would you bees do? Would you let it rest a few days and talk about it later, bring it up immediately, or just let it drop completely? I’m torn as I don’t keep secrets from my FI and I feel like this one might hurt him, especially right now.