Open mouth, insert foot…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@NoOneYouExpect:  all the time.  

I’m a total foot in mouth person, all the time.  It’s brutal.  I have a habit of saying things that just don’t come out right at all – sounds fine in my head but as it’s coming out of my mouth I’m simultaneously telling myself to shut up.

Post # 4
Member
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I do. I say things all the time that I look back on almost instantly and say “Omg, why did I say that!?” and I get SOOOOOOOOO embarrassed. 🙁

Post # 5
Member
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@NoOneYouExpect:  I just wanted to say that I think getting in a car accident, having to cover medical expenses, and needing a new car takes precedence over a ring any day of the week. I am really glad you didn’t say anything to him because you would have come across as extremely selfish. It’s obviously not his priority right now and I think nagging would work against you a lot more than being a supportive girlfriend would. Just because you don’t have a ring doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you and isn’t committed to you.

Post # 6
Member
5192 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you said the right thing.  You’ll be better of going into marriage debt free than having an expensive ring.  There are so many great inexpensive options out there now if the ring is really important to you and you guys can’t afford something fancy.  Why put the strain on yourselves?

Post # 8
Member
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is nothing wrong with what you said.  A foot in mouth moment would have been if you said, “UGH how will you EVER propose if you don’t any money for the ring???”

 

…why didn’t insurance cover the car costs?  =(

Post # 9
Member
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

this was not a foot in mouth moment. foot in mouth would have been asking for a ring when you need to buy a car after an accident.

Post # 11
Member
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@NoOneYouExpect:  Then stick your foot in your mouth, then take it out to say, “Why are you getting a nicer car instead of proposing????”  lol.  I think you did just fine.  =)

Post # 12
Member
5192 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@NoOneYouExpect:  Let me clarify.  Statements such as “downpayment on a ring” and “could almost buy a new vehicle outright” make it sound like your in debt/are planning to go into debt.

Some people might be comfortable with that.  But I think that you said the right thing because I don’t think it’s a good idea to go into debt for either a car or a ring…but especially a ring.  Especially when there are so many excellent inexpensive options out there these days.

Just a personal opinion.

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