(Closed) Open to the Public Mass??… what do you guys think?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it a weird to have our wedding ceremony during a public mass?
    a little bit... : (6 votes)
    26 %
    no, the more the merrier! : (11 votes)
    48 %
    yes, it should be a private and sacred family occasion : (6 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Most people like weddings, so I doubt they’d be annoyed. You might be more limited in things like the procession, reading choices, etc. I know one of those articles on how to have a Catholic wedding recommended having it during the regular Sunday mass. I mean, a sacrament is a sacrament, so I think the church would be glad to witness it.

    On the other hand, I wouldn’t worry about the gap. I think its common in many Catholic weddings. I was worried about mine being too long, but a lot of people told me they’d prefer having one. I went to a wedding this weekend with an awkward 1 hr gap and I realized I would’ve preferred to have some more time in between. 

    Post # 4
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    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I agree with your MIL.  It’s a bit weird to have strangers in your wedding ceremony.  It’s fine if you’re ok w/ them but I’m not sure they will welcome a “suprise bride & groom” on their end when they’re expecting a normal Sunday mass.  If you know all the usual Sunday parishoners, perhaps that’s ok but if not, it’s kinda weird intruding on them.  Just a thought.  No mean snarks here.

    (As a parishoner, I would not mind having a bride & groom in our normal mass at all.  In fact, I love just looking at wedding cermonies.  I consider it a treat to see weddings.  So, it could be that other parishoners have the same attitude.  It’s up to you to guage this.)

    Post # 5
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    What does your priest think, is he willing to do this?

    Post # 6
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    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I once was at a mass where a couple got married – they were older in their 50’s.  It was odd since nobody knew what was going on but still kinda nice.

    Post # 8
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    Then I totally would go for it.  I donno, I think there’s something romantic about speaking your love in front of others.

    Post # 9
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    4123 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You will have to use the “Sunday” readings, and as a plus, it fulfills your guests (and your) Sunday obligation. Honestly, I’d probably be excited to see a wedding happen! I always get excited for baptisms, first communions, and I’ve seen numerous renewal of vows too!

    If you, your FI, and your priest are on board, awesome. As for your parents, I’m sure the church will allow for the first few pews, at least, to be reserved for family… and it will still be a family event.

    I think the symbolism as well of sharing in the Sacrament with the entire church body is really awesome. 

     

    Post # 10
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    We toyed with the idea, but we want to pick our music and readings.  The entire reason for having a wedding in the Catholic Church is it to be witnessed by the community and of course, God. I’m a relatively new Catholic, so I’ve never witnessed one but Catholic weddings are always open to fellow Catholics.  I never “crashed” one, b/c that’s what some people think of it but really it’s supposed to be for the community as well.  Good luck 🙂

    Post # 12
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We are actaully having our ceremony during the Sunday morning mass (we are also doing a destination wedding later that week, but the “official” marriage will be at our church). 

    For us it made perfect sense- we belong to a small church, and mostly know everyone and it was a way to include our church family and for me to get the destination wedding I wanted.  Our priest was completely onboard, and the other members of the church are really excited!

    Good luck!

    Post # 13
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We didn’t have ours during a scheduled Mass, but we did invite the congregation! I was very involved in our parish and lots of people wanted to see me get married.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve been to a couple of weddings during regular mass, and I think they are really nice. Who doesn’t like seeing a joyous couple getting married? Catholic weddings masses aren’t particularly personalized anyways, so it isn’t as if they are going to have to sit through anything weirdly intimate.

    Go for it!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Well, hopefully she will come around. Maybe she just needs to think about it. It’s a very cool and very Catholic thing to do!

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