(Closed) Open vs Cash Bar Debate-bit long

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is the open bar obsolete?
    Yep, it's ridiculously expensive : (20 votes)
    19 %
    Yes, it doesn't happen in my area/ culture : (10 votes)
    9 %
    No, it's a must : (59 votes)
    55 %
    Other - comment below : (19 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I had never even heard of having an open bar until weddingbee! I even asked the lady at our venue and she said around here (and the bordering states) its not the norm at all.

    Post # 5
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    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2001

    I think wine and/or beer only is perfectly acceptable and I don’t think it’s really a big deal when people opt to not have a full open bar at the reception. 

    Post # 6
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    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I live in the midwest and all the weddings I have been to have had an open bar.  We opted to limit the drinks to beer and wine but everything is provided free to guests.  It’s something we knew from the beginning and built into our budget.  Different regions have different customs.  It was interesting to hear about an Irish wedding as well!

     

    Edit: I meant to add… when we looked at all the reception facilities, we made sure to pick a place with a very reasonable “per person” cost for alcohol for guests over the age of 21 (so we don’t have to pay for we people who can’t drink – a lot of places wanted us to pay for them too!)

    Post # 7
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    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It definitely is a cultural thing as I have NEVER attended a cash bar – they have always been open!

    Post # 8
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    11328 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I definitely think its a regional/cultural thing. In my family/friends an open bar is standard. I’ve only been to two weddings without it, and they were dry for religious reasons. That being said, we’re not doing an open bar because we can’t afford it. Unlike much of our family we are not willing to go into debt for a wedding. So, we’re doing an “open bar” of beer/wine/sig drink only rather than doing full on all-liquor. For us, it was a good compromise. I know that my family won’t be upset because they’ll be getting SOMETHING for free even if not liquor, and we won’t go totally broke. 

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Evey wedding i’ve been to except one has been open bar. It may be a midwest thing, but whatever’s provided is open. My one friend had open for the first 500 beverages (so everybody got two basically) then it was cash. I had a limited bar (beer, wine, two signature drinks) and everything else has been open with everything you could want.

    It also cost us under $1,000 =]

    Why is an open bar SO expensive in Ireland? Because of the quantity of liquor drank?

    Post # 13
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Ah. Your prices are comparable to VERY nice drinks here in the midwest. Like, what I’d expect to spend at a very nice dinner or a nice hotel. The prices are usually pretty low for drinks at a wedding reception because they are small and usually low on the liquor–I’ve been the only one who’s been allowed to buy my own and provide my own bartenders. Most places had an option for adding an open bar–and it was like $30 a person. Averages out considering many have quite a few a night and many have only 1-2.

    Thanks for the info!

    Post # 14
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    11328 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think the difference in the US (particularly in some areas) is that there are usually prices per head for full open bar and it goes by hours. Most places we looked were like $25/head for 4 hours open bar or something. Although some places are as high as $45. 

    What saves a TON of money are places that allow you to bring in your own alcohol. Thats what mine does and (i believe) thats how ejs’ was too. So we get to decide what to bring in and we’re buying at state minimum prices. All of our alcohol will very likely be $1000 or less for 100ish people.

    Post # 15
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    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We are having a semi-open bar which is pretty much the norm anymore around here. We are providing a keg, table wine, and the toasting champagne (plus drink tickets for the bridal party to have whatever they want). Hard liquor, shots, etc. are cash only.

    I’m being a hard @ss though and not letting people open tabs. This has a few people upset (mostly extended family), but the bar is literally CASH ONLY. They don’t take checks or credit cards, so why would I let them open a tab just to say at the end of the night “Oh…I don’t have enough…well I’m just not going to pay” and leave me stuck with the tab plus a $24 no-pay fee? I told them to bring cash for their drinks or the can have beer (which has completely offended my grandmother and uncle who only drink martinis).

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