Post # 1
Question that has me stumped: Has anyone heard of a wedding being an “open wedding”? Someone asked my fiance today if we were having an open wedding, meaning anyone who wants to can show up. Turns out he was kind of trying to invite himself to the wedding which is a whole separate thing lol but do people do that? Just throw out a time and venue and it’s come one, come all?
Post # 3
@futuremrskmk: I’ve never heard of someone doing this, but a small part of me likes the idea! Haha. I’m interested in hearing what other people have to say.
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of something like this, and even though I kinda like the idea, you’ve gotta figure someone’s gonna show up that you’d raaaaather not be there. Or even homeless/strangers! No thanks. And you’d have to do it pot-luck style/BYOB/standing room only.
Post # 5
@futuremrskmk: Yeah, that’s how the American gypsies do it at the very least. They put the word out and then whomever comes, comes. That’s what the TV show demonstrates at least.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I guess some people do this for the ceremony. defo not the reception though.
Post # 7
Yes I’ve been to a couple. They are usually college age people. They are fun, but be ready not to eat if food runs out, Although it never actually did! which is surprising. They even posted it on facebook lol for anyone to come.
Both times were in public BBQ/Park areas. So people came and went to get a snack/food/ etc and came back. They had BBQ pits so people would bbq up hotdogs and steaks.
Basically like a BBQ where you invite anyone, but with a wedding in it.
Post # 8
How would you know how many tables and chairs or food to have?
Post # 9
@futuremrskmk: Never head of that! My DH used to live in a rural area when he was very young and retained some friendships from childhood. He heard from a guest that someone from his hometown was inquiring about the address of the wedding so they could come; we told them not to share any details. Apparently this isn’t a big deal in their small town. I’m assuming it’s a rural small town thing…
Post # 10
I’ve heard people have problems with people stealing the wedding presents.
Post # 11
I would imagine they exist, but in real life, I have never heard about one. 😛
Post # 12
My mom has told me that she’s had coworkers just post a wedding invitation on their bulletin board. I don’t know how on earth you’d get RSVPs for something like that!
Post # 13
@Dareebs: He heard from a guest that someone from his hometown was inquiring about the address of the wedding so they could come.
Omg. Maybe my perspective is skewed because I’m having a very intimate wedding, but the above is literally my nightmare.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
I’ve heard of them, it’s common in my mom’s culture. I know that sometimes the weddings are just held during typical Sunday mass and so everyone is welcome to attend. The receptions are open to everyone because it gives back to the community (allows the hungry/homeless to eat) and in many cultures everyone is considered family. For example, all of my mom’s friends are my “aunts” and their children are my “cousins”, all of her friends are “ate (ah-tay) Name” or “sister Name” to her. That mentality lends to everyone on the island being invited.
For the record, we aren’t having an open wedding though. 🙂
Post # 15
@futuremrskmk: I have never in my life heard of this. How would you even be able to plan something like this? You would have no idea how much food to buy or favors or drinks. I can see it getting bad fast. I would never do something like this. But I would also never have an open invitation party as well. I’m the type of person that likes to know ahead of time who’s coming and who isn’t. Don’t just show up to my house without being invited.
Post # 16
@letigre: Haha I KNOW! When our guest told us, we were stunned. “WHAAAAT?” No one showed up unannounced on wedding day 🙂