(Closed) Open/cash bar

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I would definitely NOT do that. Your wedding is not a money making venture. Treat your friends and family.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

A weddingbee favorite topic.

My vote is either have open bar, or cash bar. But don’t say you are hosting the bar if you plan to charge for drinks…that is confusing to your guests.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

open bar or cash bar. I personally don’t mind a cash bar, even though it’s like a HUGE no-no here on the Bee for some odd reason

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

@strawbs:  While I wouldn’t have a cash bar, I understand for budget reasons that lots of people do it. It’s totally ok. But charging a buck a drink to make money for the honeymoon seems a little bit much.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think you should offer what you can afford to host. If you cannot afford to host a bar, then you shouldn’t have a bar. Guests shouldn’t be put into a position in which they can elect to pay extra for additional services. Would you let your guests order a fancier dinner if they would pay the difference? If you want to save the money for the honeymoon, then downgrade the type fo bar you have. Offer just beer and wine, or have a signature cocktail of two, or have beer and wine all night and a full open bar just for cocktail hour.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

DON’T DO IT!!  Having a cash bar is ok if the venue won’t let you bring in your own alcohol and you can’t afford to host yourself…but making $ off your “guests” for your honeymoon is not cool.  If you are going to host it, then host it and don’t charge them for anything.  Just host beer and wine if you would like to save money. 

ETA: Oh, and it could also be illegal in some areas because you bought the liquor and YOU don’t have a liquor license to sell alcohol.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mamadingdong:  I agree with the opinion about charging a buck a drink for the honeymoon. all or nothing, open or cash, the OP should not have an in between

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If you can afford it, just have an open bar.  If you can’t, do beer / wine / a couple signature drinks.  Or just beer and wine (that’s what we’re doing!)  

ETA:  Edited, didn’t mean to offend.  Suffice to say I would much rather go to a free wine/beer bar than a full bar that required guests to pay.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@lolot:   A traditional cash bar is not tacky- that may be all that some couples can afford. While it may not be your choice, there is no need to put down someone else’s choice.

Side note: the OP isn’t talking about a cash bar. What she wants is to make money off of her friends.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@AmyJo77:  Uhm, let me get this straight: you want to chage your GUESTS so they can finance your honeymoon?

Re-read what I just wrote and ask yourself again.

Yeah.. my answer is host it all, or don’t host at all. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kes18:  This.

I get really sick and tired of people here getting their panties in a twist over cash bar, calling it tacky, saying that you should not have a bar at all, etc. CASH BARS ARE REGIONAL AND VERY ACCEPTED/EXPECTED IN PLACES.

Like has been said, either do a cash bar or a hosted bar (either full open for a flat rate, consumption service, or put a certain amount down on a tab and it goes cash bar when that runs out), do NOT make money off of your guests.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@AmyJo77:  i guess it’s what is accepted in your circle of family/friends.

i personally would never have a cash bar but i have been to a couple of them.  they are usually for couples who do not have a lot of money and cannot afford the extras. 

just keep in mind that the type of reception should reflect the wedding.  if you have an elaborate wedding with thousands and thousands spent on flowers, linens, decor, dress, etc and then expect your guests to pay for drinks, it’s a bit offputting.

i’ve heard of one wedding where the bride was bragging that her dress cost a ridiculous amount (like $7000+) but made her guests pay for the bar.  i find that rude.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@kes18:  ditto this

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