Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
Hello! I’ve had suggestions from a couple of family friends that we have a breakfast or something the day after the wedding where guests can come and watch us open our wedding gifts. Is this a normal thing, to open gifts in front of everyone? I feel like everyone already went through this at the bridal shower, and I know for a fact that my FH would not be comfortable sitting in the middle of everyone opening presents. I was thinking FH and I would open gifts together in our hotel room or at home–of course, we are going to send thank you cards!
Post # 3
i dont think there is a right or wrong thing to do. but we had a brunch the day after our wedding and invited our family and opened gifts (which i hate opening gifts infront of people) but it wasnt’ bad at all acutally was quite fun!
Post # 4
I’ve been invited to one of these and it was super awkward, In My Humble Opinion. I dont like to see anyone open gifts, let alone devote an entire meal to it. Then again, I’m not keen on it at the bridal shower either, so maybe I’m not the best one to ask.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think these gift opening parties are awkward. I’d rather just have brunch with the couple.
Post # 6
I’ve never attended a post-wedding gift opening celebration but I know other bees have had one. Personally, Darling Husband and I had most of our registry gifts shipped to our house prior to the wedding so by the day of, we only had a few in boxes. The rest were envelopes. We didn’t open our envelopes in front of anyone as we didn’t see the need for anyone to see how extravagant (or not) someone was.
I didn’t have a wedding shower.
Post # 7
We are doing something like this. Not really because of the whole opening gifts thing, but because we want an opportunity to spend time with all of our out of town guests, but don’t want to be split up. For me opening gifts and the brunch is just a reason to get these people together.
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Post # 9
I’m in the same boat. My mom really wants to do this brunch the day after the wedding too. I have a feeling that we are going to be so exhausted from the night before and opening gifts in front of a crowd is awkward and my face goes super red. At the engagement party people I didn’t expect people to bring gifts and when they did I was told to open them in front of everyone, face went red and I got all hot and clammy. Fi is the same way. So im not really sure what to do at this point.
Post # 10
We had a day-after-the-wedding brunch and open house, but no gift opening. I’ve heard of it online, but it’s not common here.
Post # 11
I agree with the the Bee’s I think it is up to you. I wouldn’t mind opening up actual gifts, but I feel uncomfortable opening cards with cash in them. I’m not sure how to get out of that… any ideas? I have a feeling my Future Mother-In-Law would like to see who gave us what…
Post # 12
I think this is up to you. I would personally feel uncomfortable opening gifts in front of people. But then again, I don’t like opening any gifts in front of people ever.
Post # 13
It’s pretty common in my area for the families to get together while the couple opens their gifts, but usually it’s just the immediate family. I have been to one wedding where they invited practically everyone, rented a pavillion, etc and I thought it was a bit much. I’d feel weird opening cash gifts in front of a bunch of people.
Post # 14
I personally think it’s akward but it’s up to you!
Post # 15
we tried to organize a day-after picnic lunch, but most people bailed. It ended up just being us, my Mom and step-Dad, and my bro and his wife. My Fiance and I had already opened our physical gifts and all the cards, and I’m so glad we did it privately! she wrote everything down and I unwrapped, and we just kept gasping at the generosity of our guests! so, I would vote for organizing the brunch, but pass on the public gift opening.
Post # 16
It’s fairly common in my area and we did a backyard brunch. We had the pool open and volleyball/badminton/bocce/horseshoes set up so people could do whatever and if they wanted to watch some gifts that was cool too.
Mostly just as excuse to hang out with our out of town guests (mostly aunts and uncles) again and get to visit more.