Post # 1
Today we received a wedding gift from an obscure relative (like grandfather’s sister’s daughter). I started opening it, thinking she would probably appreciate a prompt thank you card, but imagine my surprise when my Fi stopped me! His opinion is that wedding gifts and writing thank you cards should all be saved until after the wedding (or honeymoon in our case since we’re flying out about 6 hours after the reception ends). Well, let me tell you, I was glad I was too excited to wait and opened it anyway! The relative had included a very nice card in which she explained that she meant this card to be her RSVP as well as a congratulations. At which point my Fi concluded that I am the Queen of ruining surprises but I was right in opening this one gift before the wedding.
So, what do you think, Hive? Should wedding gifts be opened upon delivery or held until after the wedding? What did/will you do?
Post # 3
I say that we’ll wait until after the honeymoon, but I’m not a very patient person and will probably open them as they come in. Of course I say that, but FI is more patient than I and may make me wait until after the honeymoon.
Post # 4
Without question, upon delivery. If it is broken or not the right thing, you will be glad you didn’t wait. It also will give you an opportunity to get ahead with your thank you notes and will allow the person who sent the gift to know that it arrived safely.
Post # 5
Im opening it upon delivery, but making sure with my FMIL that they arent gifts that are supposed to be for the shower, which is one month away today 🙂 We have gotten 3 things, which I already know what they are from our registry but not who got it for us. She did say that one of them is actually a wedding gift and was surprised it was sent so early but I figure well open it now anyways 🙂
Post # 6
Personally I won’t be able to wait to open it. I’m sure FI won’t either! Even if you don’t open it I think proper etiquette is to write the thank you now instead of later.
Post # 7
We’d like to wait until after the wedding and do them all at the day-after brunch so everyone could watch, but that’s just not practical. It’s too important to check to see if it is broken, etc., and I think that thank you notes should be sent as soon as possible to anyone kind enough to send us something. Otherwise, they could be waiting for months to even hear that their gift was received!
Post # 8
I think it should be opened right away so that you can write a thank you note to the gifter and let them know that the gift arrived safely in one piece. It’s also easier to keep track of that way.
Post # 9
regular wedding gifts — AFTER THE HONEYMOON!
mailed gifts or pre-wedding gifts (not incld. shower) — ASAP!
Post # 10
We waited until after the honeymoon since most of our gifts came in on the day of the wedding. A few that were given prior to were opened immediately.
Post # 11
We plan on opening them as they come. As Mrs. Corn and others have said, you need to make sure that nothing is broken, and to send thank you’s right away so people know that we received it ok. Also, like in your situation, you never know if someone will send an important note along with it!