- Mrs. Locket
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
So we have come to the realization that the inevitable has happened….we were warned, but never thought it could happen to us. If you have succombed to our misfortune you probably know what I am talkling about. We have followed the path of many comfy couples and have let ourselves go!
When we met nearly 4 years ago (Oct 2005) both my FI and I were in decent shape. Well I was in decent shape, he was a well sculpted workoutaholic. At the time I was constantly working out and training for crew (which any rower would know can be intense). I was also eating a healthy pseudo-vegetarian diet with lots of fresh foods. My FI on the other hand would work out and lift so much that he needed to eat like crazy to fuel his body. My diet changed when we started spending more time together. I began to eat what he ate and not necessarily in moderation.
The numbers on the scale did begin to creep up….I was eating more and was no longer training for crew (darn knee injury). About a year passed and I realized wow you have got to make a change! And a change I made…I began working out in the time I had between work and classes and went back to my healthy eating habits and within 6 mos lost 30 lbs. Yay for being motivated and having a supportive BF !
Unfortunately, I was only able to keep the weight off for about 2 years. My FI and I had moved in together and initially were both doing great fitness and diet wise and then something happened. It all went down hill last summer, July 4th to be exact….we had both taken on a pseudo-vegetarian lifestyle until that dreaded day. It was BBQ season and both of us caved and had a burger and a hot dog or two. We had had our cheat days in the past where we would eat a meat dish, but something happened that independance day. Each holiday became an excuse for us to indulge.
The scale didn’t change fast..until I stopped going back to the gym when we got our puppy. At first it was 5 lbs and I thought no biggy I know how to change it…then it was 10 and it stayed that way for a few months. I wasn’t too concerned at first, but then after this past Christmas another 10 added to the scale. During this time my FI had also started to pack on the pounds, but it wasn’t as noticeable at first. He too had stopped the healthy eating and fitness habits. Being a guy with a typical fast metabolism it took him longer to put on the weight.
We both knew it was time to get back on the wagon again so we joined a gym and went together 5 days a week until April. Can you guess what happened….we got another puppy and couldn’t just go to the gym after work anymore. We needed to come home and walk and play with it for a bit. Trouble was that the gym closed at 9 and usually we wouldn’t be ready to go till 7:30 and by that time we were already in lazy mode. We tried at first to go as much as we could but things just kept interfering (i.e. we had a move to plan, we moved, unpacked, etc.) My weight hasn’t changed much and I am at my max weight similar to a couple years ago (basically gained all I had lost). But, my FI has gone through a transformation…in a span of 3 months he gained nearly 30lbs. I am not sure what happened there, but have an idea that it has been caused by his quick fast food lunches and lack of fitness.
We both love each other dearly and are honest to each other in reminding each that we need to change because we are now a fat couple. Our puffed faces leave a hint to what we once were and neither of us likes this. The trouble is all the excuses and the failed attempts. We both know we have it in us to make a change since we were looking pretty good 2 years ago. And sorry it has taken so long to get to my point, but today was the kicker and FI is finally ready for a change (He saw pictures of him from this past weekend). ( I was ready a few weeks ago when I went to try on dresses!!…I have already dropped 3lbs) It will be much easier to make these changes with him on my side and I am excited for this change and look forward to us being the “hot couple” we once were.
Has anyone else fallen victim to the “I’m in a relationship” weightgain? Did you bounce back? What were/are your excuses? What motivated you and kept you on track?