Post # 1
So, I never thought this would be an issue, but my mom and I are starting to disagree on gown style. They aren’t massively different opinions, so I’m sure we can find a compromise, but it is getting to the point that every time I show her a gown I like, she doesn’t like it.
I showed her this one this morning (Allure 2550) and I thought it was great. (She didn’t like it, but was kind about it.)
In return, she showed me this one (Casablanca 1994). I don’t really like it at all.
I know myself way too well – I’d never get a dress that she doesn’t like, and it’s getting pretty clear that she doesn’t like the fit-and-flare silhouette. I like a-line, but I think it makes me look wider than I am.
Anyone else have disagreement with the Mom over a gown? How did you get through it?
Post # 3
Have you been together to try on some gowns? What you think looks great in pictures may not translate in person as well! It is hard to say from pics how it will look on you!
Post # 4
The actual shopping experience will be soooo different that looking at pictures. She may love something on you that she never thought she would, and you may actually love something she picks out that you never thought you’d ever wear.
Post # 5
@emmanneliza: Maybe if you go to an actual dress shop and show her something along the lines of the silhouette you picked, she’ll see how flattering it is on YOUR actual body. Try one on of the shape she likes also. You could then either decide whether it looks like something you could pull off and be comfortable in or if you don’t like it, just tell her flat out. You might end up loving that look on you too, you never know. Also, this dress is your dress, and if you get something just because your mom likes it ( and you don’t love it) you’ll most likely have dress regret big time. Hope all goes well! And congrats on your wedding! 🙂
Post # 6
@boynamedgirl: Yeah…we’ve been shopping three times already, and I’ve tried on both A-line and fit-and-flare dresses. She seems to prefer the former and I prefer the latter. It’s not that the a-line gowns look bad on me, I just think I look thinner in a f&f. My sister is the mediator, whose favorite phrase has been, “Mom, you’re not getting married” (LOL) and she wants me to have my own opinion without my mom swaying me. But that’s tough for me… I know I would never get a dress she didn’t like.
Post # 7
@emmanneliza: Mt mom and I don’t really agree on dress shapes either. We both have different taste but when I found a dress I really liked (not the one) and she wasn’t too keen on at first, she ended up starting to like it a lot after she saw how excited I was in the dress. She would rather have me happy and comfortable in a dress than have what she wants. And I’m sure your mom feels the same way, maybe just remind her gently,
Post # 8
My daughter and I disagreed on dresses before we went shopping. She preferred gowns with unique pleating, rouching, etc and absolutely no sparkle. I preferred gowns with sparkle. I told her all brides should sparkle on their wedding day. LOL. To me, it wasn’t worth arguing over. It was going to be her dress but I was paying for it. I got to pick my own wedding dress and she should have what she wanted.
As it turns out, she decided she didn’t feel like a bride in the gowns that she liked in the magazines. She chose a gown totally different than what she thought she would get. It had sparkle I might add!
Anyway, don’t get too caught up in your differences from magazine pictures. Dress shopping is totally different. Just be open minded and try on different styles, fabrics, etc.