Opinion: Did I act poorly?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@foreverthine:  Since she wasn’t the only one sitting at her table, I do think you behaved poorly.  However, she sounds like an awful person.  So whatever!  Who shows up in sweats to a wedding??

 

Post # 4
Member
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@foreverthine:  Yes I would have sucked it up and greeted her and then gossiped about how tacky she was with your husband later.  You can’t change it though so I wouldn’t worry about it any more.

Post # 5
Member
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@foreverthine:  I agree with Peach… if she was the only one at the table, hell no dont go! haha. but if other family members were there I would call them and apologize.

Post # 6
Hostess
9910 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@foreverthine:  you probably should have gone to the table but I don’t blame you.  Seriously, who shows up to a wedding in sweats!?!?!?!

Post # 7
Member
3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How many other people did you ignore just because she was sitting at that same table?

She behaved poorly, but I always think it’s best to be the better person.  I think it’s time to squash it and give this girl a call and figure out what her deal is.

Post # 8
Member
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I, personally, would have strolled over there in all my glory and told her we should get a picture together. Make her own her behavior.

Trust me, talking to the table or not, she looks like the ass in this situation.

Post # 11
Member
9532 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Eh. She shouldn’t have showed up in sweats. You should have been the better person and greeted them. Neither is the end of the world. It’s over now, so just move on. Don’t give her the power to upset her. Just don’t let her get to you.

Post # 12
Member
2637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I wouldn’t have even invited her so you’re ahead of me already.

Post # 13
Member
1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@badabing88:  LLS that’s a good one. I dont know about asking HER specifically to take a pic but the group mos def. Whatever her reasons she looked like an asshole and she probably looked like she smelled bad too. Screw her, I hope your wedding day was brilliant!

Post # 14
Member
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Ya you should have taken the high road… and killed her with kindness !!

Shows you to be the better person, always.

And by the fact that there other people involved, never would have / could have (may in the future) give her a leg to stand on when it comes to saying

” Thatforeverthine… did you see how she snubbed me, what a RUDE B!tch “

(Which BTW I am sure you are not… this broad is just getting on your nice nerves.  Understandably !!)

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Lol, Ok now on with the mudslinging…

I may know the Rules of Etiquette, but I can be just as catty as the next woman…

Sweat pants ?

Seriously… you must tell us more.  How formal was your Wedding ?  Did she not look out of place etc ?

 

Post # 15
Member
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

She wore sweats? You have got to be freaking kidding me?! Who the F does that?

I would have done what @badabing88 said…get a pic of you looking gorgeous and her looking like freaking troll. My SO would be like WTF are you wearing sweats to a wedding? Please change. So inappropriate for her to do that!

Post # 16
Member
1931 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, I do think you should have greeted them- it would have made her look even worse, unfortunately you made yourself look petty. What’s done is done though. Agree with PPs, getting a picture with her in sweats at your formal wedding would have been priceless. I would have framed it for the next family party. 

 

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