Post # 1
I just want people’s opinions on a situation with me and a guest at our wedding!
A little backstory, DH’s cousin is dating a girl that has made no effort to talk to me or acknowledge me in the past 3 years I’ve known her. If we see them she doesn’t look at me, say hello, etc. She is not shy, she speaks to everyone else.
We had a small wedding of 70 people. She was the only person I wasn’t looking forward to seeing, I was semi-dreading it. I think she has been so rude to me and didn’t deserve to be a part of my special day. Unfortunately, due to her dating DH’s cousin, she was invited.
On the wedding day she shows up in sweats, no makeup, no hair done. She left our receiving line while the rest of the family and her own children were there and congratulated us. We then mingled with guests and not a word to me or DH. After the meal but before dessert DH and I went around to each table to speak to our guests and thank them for coming. I didn’t go to their table because I would never attend a wedding and behave that way. I’ve been +1’s to weddings where I don’t know the bride or groom and I treated them with more respect.
Now that I think about it, I probably should have still gone to their table and mustered up a fake smile and thank you. Do you think I acted poorly? Or do you think it was understandable with the circumstance?
Just curious to hear peoples opinions, I won’t be offended if you think I’m a bitch lol! Also curious if anyone has experienced anything similar!
Post # 3
@foreverthine: Since she wasn’t the only one sitting at her table, I do think you behaved poorly. However, she sounds like an awful person. So whatever! Who shows up in sweats to a wedding??
Post # 4
@foreverthine: Yes I would have sucked it up and greeted her and then gossiped about how tacky she was with your husband later. You can’t change it though so I wouldn’t worry about it any more.
Post # 5
@foreverthine: I agree with Peach… if she was the only one at the table, hell no dont go! haha. but if other family members were there I would call them and apologize.
Post # 6
@foreverthine: you probably should have gone to the table but I don’t blame you. Seriously, who shows up to a wedding in sweats!?!?!?!
Post # 7
How many other people did you ignore just because she was sitting at that same table?
She behaved poorly, but I always think it’s best to be the better person. I think it’s time to squash it and give this girl a call and figure out what her deal is.
Post # 8
I, personally, would have strolled over there in all my glory and told her we should get a picture together. Make her own her behavior.
Trust me, talking to the table or not, she looks like the ass in this situation.
Post # 9
@peachacid: The table’s were 6 to a table. Her table consisted of her, DH’s cousin and their 3 children. I thought since it was DH’s family that it was okay for just him to go over but I now see that is wrong!
Post # 10
@badabing88: I like your style. 🙂
Post # 11
Eh. She shouldn’t have showed up in sweats. You should have been the better person and greeted them. Neither is the end of the world. It’s over now, so just move on. Don’t give her the power to upset her. Just don’t let her get to you.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t have even invited her so you’re ahead of me already.
Post # 13
@badabing88: LLS that’s a good one. I dont know about asking HER specifically to take a pic but the group mos def. Whatever her reasons she looked like an asshole and she probably looked like she smelled bad too. Screw her, I hope your wedding day was brilliant!
Post # 14
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Ya you should have taken the high road… and killed her with kindness !!
Shows you to be the better person, always.
And by the fact that there other people involved, never would have / could have (may in the future) give her a leg to stand on when it comes to saying
” Thatforeverthine… did you see how she snubbed me, what a RUDE B!tch “
(Which BTW I am sure you are not… this broad is just getting on your nice nerves. Understandably !!)
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Lol, Ok now on with the mudslinging…
I may know the Rules of Etiquette, but I can be just as catty as the next woman…
Sweat pants ?
Seriously… you must tell us more. How formal was your Wedding ? Did she not look out of place etc ?
Post # 15
She wore sweats? You have got to be freaking kidding me?! Who the F does that?
I would have done what @badabing88 said…get a pic of you looking gorgeous and her looking like freaking troll. My SO would be like WTF are you wearing sweats to a wedding? Please change. So inappropriate for her to do that!
Post # 16
Yes, I do think you should have greeted them- it would have made her look even worse, unfortunately you made yourself look petty. What’s done is done though. Agree with PPs, getting a picture with her in sweats at your formal wedding would have been priceless. I would have framed it for the next family party.