Post # 1
In reading some other posts about gifts and registries I’m hoping I wasn’t rude to BFF who just got married.
Here’s the story. I was asked to be the Maid/Matron of Honor for BFF’s wedding. I did everything I thought you were suppose to do, went with her to dress appts, bought my dress, decorated the get away car, fixed her dress, delt with little details the day of etc. I threw her 1 bridal shower (the same day I had to go to the emergency room to get stitches UGG LOL) and I attended the other 2 bridal showers, bringing a gift to each shower. I also threw her a bachelorette party and bought her something for that. Now for the wedding my parents (who were also invited to the wedding) gave her cash and a card and signed mine and SO’s name to it. My mother felt like because I had bought 3 registry gifts and a bachelorette party gift (plus a dress, etc) that I’d spent enough and that their cash gift would be fine. Now in reading some posts here I’m starting to doubt myself. Should I have sent them cash as well? Was I rude to BFF? I certainly hope not! What do you all think?
Post # 3
Oh heck no. If someone bought me THREE shower presents and a bachalorette party present and all that, I would be thrilled.
Post # 4
No! I think you are 1000% fine on this – I’d be absolutely blown away if my Maid/Matron of Honor did all that for me. I’m sure your BFF didn’t expect cash from you, but if she did, she was jerky.
Post # 5
You never know how some people will react to certain things, but in my mind, you went above and beyond being generous with buying so many gifts. It’s nice that you went to all showers, but I would have stopped at one large gift (or bought smaller ones and spread them out). In some areas of the country (mainly the South), I’ve heard that people only give shower gifts and not seperate wedding gifts.
When I was the Maid/Matron of Honor I did the shower and batchelorette too, but also gave a wedding gift of cash.
Only you know your friend. Have you sensed there’s anything wrong or she’s upset about anything? If not, I think you’re good.
Post # 6
No I haven’t sensed anything wrong, but then again BFF probably wouldn’t say anything anyway. Just in reading some posts here you are suppose to give a gift for both the shower and the wedding. Since I didn’t directly I guess I feel a little bad, but again I did give other gifts so I guess I didn’t know if that was still acceptable.
Post # 7
Not rude, my Maid/Matron of Honor did way less than you did! Two people in my wedding party didn’t give us wedding gifts and two did. and then I didn’t get any gifts from anyone for the bachelorette party! and only one girl gave me a shower gift. So don’t get stressed out over it. You shound like you went above and beyond and were a great Maid/Matron of Honor. Everyone is different 🙂
Post # 8
Nope! One of my BMs did group gifts with her family for my shower and wedding. She was sooo helpful, especially close to the wedding and that means way more to me than the gifts (we are also awesome).
Post # 9
I think you were more than generous! Don’t sweat it.
Post # 10
No weren’t rude at all, you did more than a lot of people do. Don’t worry!
Post # 11
If anything you gave a few gifts too many- basic etiquette says you’re only responsible for 1 pre-wedding gift (so if you attend 3 bridal showers, you’d only bring a gift to 1).
Post # 12
I think you did more than enough! 🙂
Post # 13
IMO you went above and beyond and most brides would be thrilled to have you as their Maid/Matron of Honor. Don’t sweat it, you did enough!
Post # 14
I agree, if my Maid/Matron of Honor does all that for me, I certainly wouldn’t expect her to get me aNOTHER gift for the wedding!
Post # 15
@happy2bee: Oh I certainly do not think you were rude at all! You fufilled your duties at a Maid/Matron of Honor and then went above and beyond in the gift department! I would have stopped at one gift! I would not feel bad at all, you did everything that you should have done and then some! :o)
Post # 16
You weren’t rude!! You sound like you did more than enough for her. 🙂