Post # 1
So I need your opinions. We are having a dilemma. Mr. Novmeber and I have decided not to get married until 6pm and afterwards we will not serve a full dinner, rather cheese trays, shrimp cocktail, wine, etc. We come from a very little town where people are not used to this style wedding.We would also like to have a cash bar insteead of us paying for it. We are now being scrutinized. Do we listen to everybody else and get married at 3 instead? I have always dreamed about getting married in the evening. I am not a huge fan of day weddings. I think night weddings are romantic. Not one of my bridesmaids paid over 40 dollars for their dresses and a few of them are complaining also. Do I tell them to shove it? The pressure is so annonying! Do Mr. November and I just stick to our guns?
Post # 3
It’s YOUR wedding. You need to do what will make you and your fiance happy. However, most people do expect a meal when they go to a wedding, even if it is an evening wedding. I would recommend having very heavy apps or serve dinner. If you are not serving dinner, you should be sure that all guests will be aware of that fact.
In the end, what you want is what really matters.
Post # 4
If you want the evening wedding, have it, but you will need to feed people. It might be possible to arrange inexpensive food (a bbq? a potluck? heavy apps?) but I think you need to provide food.
We went to an evening wedding once where there was only cheese and crackers and it was unpleasant. We had travelled to go to the wedding and expected dinner because of the time. We were starving and cranky at the end of the night.
Post # 5
It’s totally your wedding, like bunnylovesbear said. However, perhaps you could find a middle ground? Serve heavy appetizers like you mentioned — cheese, fruit, meatballs, shrimp cocktail, chicken fingers, various puff pastries. Make sure there’s enough for everyone to eat (you don’t want growling tummies)! I’ve been to several evening weddings that did this — it’s more social and allows guests to mingle more.
As far as the bar, have you considered doing a beer and wine bar? It’s far cheaper than liquor bars. Or, will your venue allow you to bring in your own alcohol? You can get cases of wine or beer (or kegs even). Tell the bartender not to open any unneeded beverages. Then you can usually take back your unused leftovers for a refund.
Post # 6
Do what you want! i got married at 6pm and it was gorgeous. But, it was still warm and sunny. It wasn’t exactly evening. By November youll have a sunset! Aww!
We served a full dinner. I mean, 730 for dinner isn’t very late, so consider some options. Your guests like to be fed. So just make sure you have some heavy appetizers!
Post # 7
i agree. i would be confused if i went to an evening wedding and there wasn’t a meal. if you do decide to do just appetizer, make sure you let your guest know so they won’t be hungry during your celebration. 🙂
Post # 8
I agree with several posters above that I think you need to either have very heavy appetizers or dinner. With the ceremony at 6, people probably won’t have time to eat at home before, and people do usually expect dinner at an evening wedding. Plus, empty stomachs + alcohol = disaster.
Post # 9
I really think that you need to feed people. While I’ve never been to a wedding where I haven’t been fed (and all the weddings I’ve been to started at 6 or later), my parents have and they still talk about it twenty years later. One of the other guests even wrote in to Ann Landers about how awful it was and the clipping was on our fridge for months.
Now granted, there were a lot of other things wrong with this wedding, but my parents say that no one would have cared about the other stuff if they had all been fed.
Post # 10
Thanks for the opnions. I am going to stand firm on our wedding time and will do havey appetizers. We have about 100 guests coming and I will be sure to inform them all.
Post # 11
Great idea to just have heavy appitizers!! I was in one of my best friend’s weddings a couple of weekends ago and she had an evening wedding – she did heavy appitizers and everyone loved it!