(Closed) opinion: sisters not bridesmaids, but i want to honor them,,, what to do?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: how should i honor non bridesmaid sisters
    Sisters in the processional : (12 votes)
    55 %
    Include honoring role models in ceremony (with flower) : (6 votes)
    27 %
    Include honoring role models in ceremony (skip the flower) : (0 votes)
    I have a better idea! : (4 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @fbrownbride:  I love your ideas! I think they are both great and could be done with such class. At first I was like “Meh, in the processional?” But if you think about it, grandparents and parents are in the processional, why not honored siblings?

    At ceremonies where people have given out flowers to honored guests, I have always seen the couple go down to the guests, not having the guests come up to the altar.

    You could reserve them seats in the front row (if there are enough) to make that easier. Plus that’s a place of honor.

    Perhaps give them a corsage that is a little different than everyone else’s.

    If they are talented singers, you could ask them to together sing a song.

    You could see if you could find a reading with multiple parts and ask them all to do a portion of the reading.

    You could have out a table with photos of “honored family” and put framed photos of them on that table. Sort of like people do for memorials (but obviously you’d have to be careful to make it clear it was for people who are still alive!!).

    Post # 4
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    7879 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I say just seat them when the parents are seated, so I voted “in the processional”.

    I don’t think it’s necessary to do anything else. They will be in the family photos and presumably seated at your family’s table at the reception. I think that is enough. Whenever siblings are not in the wedding party (and aren’t doing a reading), that is what usually happens. You can also thank them in a speech at the reception – this is a more common time to thank people.

    Post # 5
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    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Honestly, I don’t think you need to go to these lengths. I know, for myself, if my sister wanted to have me walk in the processional, but not be a bridesmaid, or stop the ceremony to do some kind of flower thing, it would make me pretty uncomfortable, like, “This is their wedding, shouldn’t my sister be getting married already, and WHY ARE ALL THESE PEOPLE LOOKING AT ME?” (Of course maybe your sisters would love it, so, you know… 🙂

    I think if you really want your sisters to know how important they’ve been to you, you should write them each a letter telling them how they’ve been role models for you and give them to them the night before or morning of. I know that something like that, from my sister, would be so meaningful to me. 

    Post # 6
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    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Do you have page boys or flowergirls? maybe they could help them down the aisle?

    Post # 8
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    7908 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I wouldn’t do any of these things. Give the corsages and leave it at that. To me, all these gestures just draw attention to the fact that these women are not bridesmaids and implies that there is something wrong with that and you are trying to make up for it.

    Post # 9
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @fbrownbride:  

    They don’t have to be in the processional. You can make them attendants/ushers, to pass out programs and help people to their seats. You can also ask them to assist with coordinating escort cards at the reception, and taking photos, etc.

     

     

    Post # 10
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    2 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I am currently battling the same thing! We’ve decided to have them walk down the aisle after the parents and before the bridesmaids. We will have a sister dress and have them stand at the altar with the bridesmaids. This seems to be a great compromise since the groom didnt want them as bridesmaids (BM) or groomsmen (GM).

    However my problem is I have no clue what to call them!?!?

    What creative title should they carry since they are all to old to be junior bridesmaids and junior groomsmen.

    I initially started calling them honorary attendants but everyone including the mother of the groom, mother of the bride, and siblings lashed at me for that. I asked them to come up with a better name, yet no one has. PLEASE HELP!

    This is a formal wedding and I will put these titles on programs and on out wedding website.

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