Post # 1
I’m not mad about this, just highly annoyed. I have had my moh and 2 bms picked out practically from the day I got engaged. I love them all and we all get along great. But right now FI and I are working on picking colors and last night bm#2 (also my soon to be cousin in law and hair stylist) was doing my hair and asking me what we had come up with. I told her I like the idea of re-wearable black dresses but fi feels like black is funeral-ish, and he likes blue and silver or teal and silver. This was her comment “Silver won’t look good on any of the BMs and… well I just want a black dress that I can wear again”
WHAT!?!?!?!?!? Umm since when did a bm tell the bride what she is wearing…
Do/Did you have a bm who is overly opinionated?
Post # 3
One of mine told me that the light blue I picked wouldn’t match her eyes! She spent a day looking up different color combos, and when I rejected them, she got really, really mad (she’s family if you can’t tell, lol).
Post # 4
I can imagine that must be annoying, but you don’t have to listen to her. When you find the right dress and color for your girls, the desicion is yours and its final.
Post # 5
I don’t know how the conversation ended, but it also sounds like she is on your side. You like the black dresses and she agreed with you. Also, she could have been trying to warn you silver does not look good on her. I’m not trying to make excuses for your BM, just giving you a different perspective.
Post # 6
While I understand why you are annoyed (I would be too) – I think it isnt what she said that annoyed you but the way she said it. If you had just asked her what she would prefer to wear then it would have been an appropriate time for her to say “I would love to be able to wear something that I look good in and can wear again” but the way she said it came off somewhat demanding. And I do agree that maybe she was trying to be behind you because she knew you wanted to do black dresses so she was just agreeing with you and maybe it just came out wrong?
Personally I think you should do the black dresses – they do not look funeral-ish whatsoever!! And not only that but I’m pretty sure the bride picks what the BMs are wearing and not the groom! 🙂
Post # 7
no but i was between two dresses and i had one that very persistand on ordering one of those while the rest of the girls like the other one…Majority Rules 🙂
my girls are wearing black…i think its sophisticated and classic…not funeralish! 🙂 plus they will have pops of color with flowers and boutineers ya know?
Post # 8
i agree with @7mom. her comment kinda sounds like she was responding to what you were saying. like you were telling her your dilemma about how you want black but FI does not. so to help you decide she offered her opinion. it would have been different had you decided on silver and she said “no i want black…”
Post # 9
I would see what the other girls think. I had a rough time with a bridesmaid. she told me my colors needed to be navy blue so she could shorten a dress that she had to wear for my wedding. She also tried making the day i went dress shopping all about what she was going to wear and what shoes she wanted to buy. We ended up getting in a fight a few weeks later and i wasn’t all that bummed about kicking her out of the wedding party!
Post # 10
You’re not alone, I have a very opinionated bridesmaid as well. I love her dearly but I feel like she dislikes every wedding-related idea I’ve told her and always comes up with something she thinks is better. When I showed her a picture of the dress I bought online, she even said “It’s pretty but it’s not what I pictured for you.” … Really?!?
She really is a sweet girl and I’m happy to have her be part of my special day, but I really wish she’d back off a little sometimes. I think part of it is just her personality and part of it is because she just got married this past summer and she’s still sort of in wedding planning mode.
Post # 10
iheartnerds: “It’s pretty but it’s not what I pictured for you.”<br />One of my BM says that to me all the time. Not just about dresses, but everything. Jewelry I want to wear, my hair style, my shoes, how i want to do my makeup/nails. Literally everything about the wedding. She’s already married and so she feels like she can force her opinions on me bc shes ‘been there done that’ as shes put it. I dont want/need my BMs to be ‘yes’ people, but at the same time it would be nice if they would just once in a while like something that I am excited about. If not the idea, but just to support me.