Opinions about engagement and wedding ring situation

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
15 posts

This might not be your desired response…but I don’t think it is worth it to buy a larger diamond now. Based on your picture above, the diamond looks plenty big, honestly! I have a size 5 finger and a 1.23 cushion. Like you, I used to think that I wanted at least a 1.5. But now I am glad I didn’t get anything bigger than that, and think I could have even gone down to a carat. I will say that my stone is set rather high, and I think that helps make it look bigger. Keep in mind, if you have a huge diamond, people might start assuming or asking if it was fake. That would be awful!

It seems to me that there would be a jeweler out there who could put your current diamond in a higher setting for more reasonable price.

Speaking as someone who chronically overthinks things, I think you’re overthinking it, and that is leading you to be unhappy with your beautiful diamond. My suggestion would be to get a thin pave wedding band now to give yourself more bling, and then just start enjoying it! 🙂


Post # 3
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

pinkgurl86:  First of all, that ring is gorgeous. That stone sparkes, so who cares if it’s 1/4 ct smaller than you wanted. That’s only in weight, so it doesn’t necessarily translate into size. 

I’m a cheapskate, so I say go with the cheapest option. I love my ring, but I wish it were bigger. And someday, when we have been married for 15 years we are still madly in love, I will have earned a bigger stone.  For now, love what you have. Starting with a more modest ring isn’t such a bad thing. 

I question his jeweler, only because when the ring was made (?) the jeweler wasn’t discussing how it would sit with a wedding band. My jeweler has to be creative in the setting I wanted because traditionally it wouldn’t lie flush with a band, but he made it work. 

And yes, setting can make ring look bigger or smaller, same as a poorly cut stone. I say go the cheaper route. You have a lifetime to make changes in the future. 

Post # 4
278 posts
Helper bee

pinkgurl86: I think your stone looks big and pretty! ^^ But if you want to go for a bigger stone, how about choosing a clear gemstone? You’d probably get more stone for the money and you could even experiment with some colour if you’d like. 🙂

Post # 5
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

pinkgurl86:  I promise you I am not trying to be rude– but you are WAY to focused on size.  WAAAAAY.  Just a question:  you mentioned that 1.5-2 ct. will be noticed more by people.  Why is it so important that people notice your ring?  

I feel like if you just flat out said “I want a bigger stone because I think it will look better on my hand”– I might understand and respect your thought process more.  But it seems like you want to throw down 7-8k so people will notice your ring?  


Your ring is beautiful– and it certainly has plenty of finger coverage.  Ask yourself exactly why you want to upgrade to a larger ring…..and then sit on it for a few days and see how you feel about it.


Post # 6
20 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014 - Outdoor/indoor

I think it’s a massive ring as it is. 

Post # 7
1883 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

pinkgurl86:  I think throwing down that kind of money to make your already great sized stone 1/4 of a carat bigger is just not worth it. 

I think people do notice solitares, but they’re so popular that you probably won’t have people say anything about your ring unless it is unusually massive (and then the comments are more like “wow…your diamond is so big” as opposed to “wow…your ring is so beautiful”).

If you’re looking for people to notice your ring, you might want to focus less on the stone and more on getting a beautiful setting that will really attract the attention you want. 

Post # 8
3237 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I guarantee you that if you go to a 1.5 ct you will look at it after 6 months and wonder why you didn’t go with 2, and so on. It is really easy to play games with the numbers and rationalize that it’s “only” $XXXX more to get to a certain size, and then you realize that once that size is on your finger it doesn’t magically make your ring or size envy disappear. 

And no, people will NOT notice your ring more because it is 1/4 ct larger. Nor will they notice it if it is 1/2 ct bigger. Overall, most people won’t notice your ring no matter what because it just doesn’t matter to them. They aren’t looking. So if you want to go up in size so others will notice, it is a losing battle. If you want to go up in size for yourself, you don’t sound like you will be satisfied anyway. And you do realize that by going from $5K to $8K you are increasing the cost by an additional 60%. Keep adding a little here and a little there and suddenly you are $14K or more in, trying to get a decent quality 2 ct stone or larger (which is tough, if not impossible, to get for that amount). It’s a losing battle.

Last, NSEW prongs on a round stone make NO DIFFERENCE in how the size is perceived. Change the prongs if you want to, but that’s purely preference.

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