Post # 1
I wanted to ask your opinion about my situation and if anyone has ever experienced something similar.
I got engaged over a year ago and my fiance is amazing. He bought me a great engagement ring. Yes.. I say “great” ..but not the engagement ring that I dreamt of… I got a 1.23 carat stone and even though it looks pretty big on my 4.75 size fingers, I always wished to have a stone between 1.5-2 carat. I believe that it stands out so much more on your hand and people notice it alot more.
The band is knife edge and the prong setting are north/south/east/west. When we started shopping around for wedding bands, a big problem came up. Almost none of the prrong diamond wedding bands fit that style. There was always a gap between the two rings. My fiance didn’t like that and his jewler recommended that we change the setting (head) to a traditial 4 prong setting. He also recommended that we make it higher, so that the wedding band stones can sit flush.
After visiting another jewler, they said that my engagement ring only looks like a 1 carat, because of the way it’s currently mounted (n/s/e/w). They said that it makes the diamond look smaller. They also recommend resetting it, to give it a bigger effect. Do you find that’s true?
However, redoing the band + buying a wedding band with stones would cost approximatly 5K.
We were dicussing upgrading the stone one day to something bigger. So, I had the idea of upgrading the stone now (something larger ; over 1.5 carat) and simply get a simple band to go with it. The upgrade would be anywhere between 7-8K.
I don’t know what to do. I feel that I would be alot more happier with a bigger stone, rather then a large wedding band.
What do you guys think? Is it worth it or not?
Post # 2
This might not be your desired response…but I don’t think it is worth it to buy a larger diamond now. Based on your picture above, the diamond looks plenty big, honestly! I have a size 5 finger and a 1.23 cushion. Like you, I used to think that I wanted at least a 1.5. But now I am glad I didn’t get anything bigger than that, and think I could have even gone down to a carat. I will say that my stone is set rather high, and I think that helps make it look bigger. Keep in mind, if you have a huge diamond, people might start assuming or asking if it was fake. That would be awful!
It seems to me that there would be a jeweler out there who could put your current diamond in a higher setting for more reasonable price.
Speaking as someone who chronically overthinks things, I think you’re overthinking it, and that is leading you to be unhappy with your beautiful diamond. My suggestion would be to get a thin pave wedding band now to give yourself more bling, and then just start enjoying it! 🙂
Post # 3
pinkgurl86: First of all, that ring is gorgeous. That stone sparkes, so who cares if it’s 1/4 ct smaller than you wanted. That’s only in weight, so it doesn’t necessarily translate into size.
I’m a cheapskate, so I say go with the cheapest option. I love my ring, but I wish it were bigger. And someday, when we have been married for 15 years we are still madly in love, I will have earned a bigger stone. For now, love what you have. Starting with a more modest ring isn’t such a bad thing.
I question his jeweler, only because when the ring was made (?) the jeweler wasn’t discussing how it would sit with a wedding band. My jeweler has to be creative in the setting I wanted because traditionally it wouldn’t lie flush with a band, but he made it work.
And yes, setting can make ring look bigger or smaller, same as a poorly cut stone. I say go the cheaper route. You have a lifetime to make changes in the future.
Post # 4
pinkgurl86: I think your stone looks big and pretty! ^^ But if you want to go for a bigger stone, how about choosing a clear gemstone? You’d probably get more stone for the money and you could even experiment with some colour if you’d like. 🙂
Post # 5
pinkgurl86: I promise you I am not trying to be rude– but you are WAY to focused on size. WAAAAAY. Just a question: you mentioned that 1.5-2 ct. will be noticed more by people. Why is it so important that people notice your ring?
I feel like if you just flat out said “I want a bigger stone because I think it will look better on my hand”– I might understand and respect your thought process more. But it seems like you want to throw down 7-8k so people will notice your ring?
Your ring is beautiful– and it certainly has plenty of finger coverage. Ask yourself exactly why you want to upgrade to a larger ring…..and then sit on it for a few days and see how you feel about it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2014 - Outdoor/indoor
I think it’s a massive ring as it is.
Post # 7
pinkgurl86: I think throwing down that kind of money to make your already great sized stone 1/4 of a carat bigger is just not worth it.
I think people do notice solitares, but they’re so popular that you probably won’t have people say anything about your ring unless it is unusually massive (and then the comments are more like “wow…your diamond is so big” as opposed to “wow…your ring is so beautiful”).
If you’re looking for people to notice your ring, you might want to focus less on the stone and more on getting a beautiful setting that will really attract the attention you want.
Post # 8
I guarantee you that if you go to a 1.5 ct you will look at it after 6 months and wonder why you didn’t go with 2, and so on. It is really easy to play games with the numbers and rationalize that it’s “only” $XXXX more to get to a certain size, and then you realize that once that size is on your finger it doesn’t magically make your ring or size envy disappear.
And no, people will NOT notice your ring more because it is 1/4 ct larger. Nor will they notice it if it is 1/2 ct bigger. Overall, most people won’t notice your ring no matter what because it just doesn’t matter to them. They aren’t looking. So if you want to go up in size so others will notice, it is a losing battle. If you want to go up in size for yourself, you don’t sound like you will be satisfied anyway. And you do realize that by going from $5K to $8K you are increasing the cost by an additional 60%. Keep adding a little here and a little there and suddenly you are $14K or more in, trying to get a decent quality 2 ct stone or larger (which is tough, if not impossible, to get for that amount). It’s a losing battle.
Last, NSEW prongs on a round stone make NO DIFFERENCE in how the size is perceived. Change the prongs if you want to, but that’s purely preference.