Post # 1
i’ve been thinking about the general things i would like to say during my little speech at my wedding and really want to make sure i dont upset or insult anyone but want the parents to be happy.
obviously i plan to thank the guests for coming… but also wanted to say something to address the fact that my parents paid for the venue. i’m sure they would like to be acknowledged but i also dont want to be rude to my fiance’s parents who are contributing in their own ways (like getting his tux, bought me lots of dresses as part of their culture plus their cultural bridal dress that i’m changing into, they are hiring a family member to do our video, throwing a party a week before the wedding, etc.)
what did you do for your speech?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I would just thank both sets of parents in the speech. Your guests don’t really need to know who paid for what, do they?
Post # 4
Just thank both parents for making your wedding day possible. You don’t need to go into any details.
Post # 5
@virgomasala80: Since odds are good that the people who need to know who paid for what, will be aware of it long before you say, “I Do” you needn’t say a word about it in your speech, nothing good can come from it and apart from thanking both sets of parents for their generosity and support, nothing else needs to be said.
Post # 6
We didn’t do speeches but if we did, I would just do what PP said and just thank family/friends for their contributions and their generosity. There’s no need to go into a running total as to who gave what. Short and sweet speeches are always better.
Post # 7
@lilbluebird: i like the option of no speeches!
thanks everyone. we’re also just putting ‘your company is requested at the wedding of’ on the invite, rather than saying my parents request etc so i dont want my parents to feel jilted or something (and the response cards are coming to me instead of my parents’ house.) has anyone done post-wedding presents to their parents??
Post # 8
@virgomasala80: That’s fine regarding the “Your company is requested at …” We hosted our own wedding and that’s pretty much what we did. Your other option if you don’t want to be specific about exactly who is paying for what but wanted to give credit to everyone contributing “Ms. virgomasala80 and Mr. so and so, along with their families, request the honor of your presence…”
I think post-wedding gifts are fine. Most people gift the day of, but if this isn’t a tradition with your family, I think waiting until afterwards would be fine. Maybe your photographer can get you some early shots from the wedding and you can frame them for gifts?
Post # 9
@lilbluebird: i’m def giving them some little gifts i got personalized for them to give on the day of. but i feel like i should buy them a cruise trip or something really nice since theyre paying for my wedding venue! idk ha!
Post # 10
I plan on writing a long list of Thank Yous on the back of our wedding program, so you could say thanks to your parents for their generosity, thanks to his parents for the party and the attire, thanks to the friend for the videography, etc.